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by ertyu
Sat Jun 19, 2021 3:30 am
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: How will you evaluate this job offer
Replies: 29
Views: 1729

Re: How will you evaluate this job offer

I strongly suspect these people would end up losing their jobs anyways. It's not you who causes people to be fired. It's the corporation. If they don't replace them with you, they'll replace them with someone else. There's no room for humanity when it comes to corporate structures.
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 12:49 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Error's never ending errings
Replies: 10
Views: 636

Re: Error's never ending errings

Developing the skill to deal with the "I don't wanna" is one of the crucial tasks in life. The other crucial task is, "I want to do this bullshit thing/substance very much, and I need to let go of this urge/craving." Being able to deal, inside yourself, with the suck of craving a...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 6:32 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Education of Axel Heyst
Replies: 710
Views: 100225

Re: The Education of Axel Heyst

AxelHeyst wrote:
Thu Jun 17, 2021 12:45 pm
let’s solve this RIGHT MEOW.
i need this on a t-shirt
by ertyu
Fri Jun 18, 2021 6:12 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Just Gravy
Replies: 132
Views: 16735

Re: Just Gravy

All day and night, I am submerged in a deep pool of guilt, and any small incident concerning the children (e.g., DS2 gets a fever or DD3 seems anxious) provokes a tidal wave of guilt that completely engulfs and drowns me. I endure fantasies of crawling back to my ex, begging forgiveness, swearing e...
by ertyu
Wed Jun 16, 2021 10:33 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Education of Axel Heyst
Replies: 710
Views: 100225

Re: The Education of Axel Heyst

We never have emotion-free reasoning. In one of Oliver Sachs' books (neurologist who works with weird cases and writes about how people get when certain areas of their brain are damaged), there is a guy whose whatever-region was toast for one reason or another and so his emotions went offline. He wa...
by ertyu
Sat Jun 12, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 32
Views: 2864

Re: M2aS’ Journal

"significant issues" is putting it mildly. transgender kids are one of the teen demographics with highest risk of death by suicide. stay strong and keep doing what you're doing :muscle:
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3290

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

Not an intj, so i don't know: would it help to think about how your chosen clothing and presentation style can be instrumental, or do you think that would compound the issue in that you'd rather be moving away from solely instrumental thinking as such? Also, I know what you mean by slug style is sti...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: M2aS’ Journal
Replies: 32
Views: 2864

Re: M2aS’ Journal

What's most important is that you are in her corner. Being able to come home to a place where she can be safe and affirmed will make a big difference. It's heartwarming to see that for every transphobic £%$£&^%7 who thinks "decisions" like that better be avoided there are also kind and...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:44 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 585
Views: 119666

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Strength and peace to your daughter. May she come out of this process whole and happy. You being a flexible, supportive, and understanding parent helps more than you think; just ask those who aren't supported and accepted. All the best for you all.
by ertyu
Fri Jun 11, 2021 12:38 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: A Jacob Mention
Replies: 125
Views: 6457

Re: A Jacob Mention

Das Kapital is also a critique of capitalism. Despite being such a boogeyman for most Americans, "communism" and "socialism" have never actually been properly defined (which is what makes them such good boogeyman/propaganda terms, but I digress). The Soviets themselves didn't kno...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3290

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

@ertyu - That's good advice. I'll give some of those things a try. This issue always trips me up because worrying about individual aesthetic/identity always feels very neoliberal/postmodern/trapped in this particular milieu. Because these things "don't really exist" and weren't luxuries m...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:38 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo
Replies: 41
Views: 4419

Re: The Making of a Renaissance Hobo

Imo one of the biggest misconceptions americans have is that self-employment and starting your own business is capitalism. It can be, but only if you exploit people -- where for "exploit" we take the actual definition of the term, to pay them less than the value of what they produced for y...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 1:04 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To
Replies: 40
Views: 3290

Re: AE's Journal Round 5 - Finding Freedom To

The clothing one is an excellent one to work on because it's a concrete thing. As in, you can make very concrete tasks around it: 1. Choose a set of shoes 2. Wear just shoes somewhere low stakes, then increase the stakes. 3. Plan a coordinated outfit in new style and similarly plan outings or grocer...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 10, 2021 12:53 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 86
Views: 4851

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

@iDave really interesting. Do you (or anyone) have thoughts or observations on how to avoid being lonely old person? Any stories of elderly with no family who still managed to be socially engaged and in a support network through to their ends? symbiosis with other elderly. i have also heard of it b...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:48 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: disk_poets road towards semi-ERE
Replies: 76
Views: 6226

Re: disk_poets road towards semi-ERE

I’ve also decided to do 1 more year of therapy and actively work on my social/relationship skills. I talked to my therapist and we came up with a plan how to move out of therapy and try to cope on my own. It feels really great. It’s not that I dislike therapy… I find it VERY useful and helpful.. bu...
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 5:57 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: guitar player's journal
Replies: 101
Views: 43184

Re: guitar player's journal

awesome mushrooms
by ertyu
Fri Jun 04, 2021 2:46 am
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Can I retire with 4 children?
Replies: 81
Views: 4009

Re: Can I retire with 4 children?

The part I personally think isn't moral is for you to limit the personal development of your children just because you've chosen to limit your own by not engaging with the humanities or social sciences. To have the ability to give your children the opportunity to be bigger people but choose to delib...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:59 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 86
Views: 4851

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

In modern gyms everyone has headphones in 90%+ of the time and commercial gyms especially have virtually no sense of community. My last gym had some sense of community but even so I like to focus on my workout not chit chatting with people (I know it’s a personal problem). Talking to attractive gir...
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:24 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 86
Views: 4851

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

There are often expat events one can join. Hikes, runs, etc. If you're religious, hitting up the local church etc. is a good bet. If you are new and going somewhere by yourself might be weird, you can team up with another person who is new and hit up a bar or another place where you can meet people....
by ertyu
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:12 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital
Replies: 86
Views: 4851

Re: Methods and examples of highly developed social capital

Additional observations I have on asking questions (I'll aim for 10): 1. This is common knowledge for most people, but make your questions open-ended. Reduce the number of questions that can be answered by a simple yes/no unless you follow up. E.g. Did you end up going to (that thing you mentioned l...