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Interesting topic/question; hope this thread is able to play out for a bit. As for nuance, I think your question, and the article to an extent (and the comment you quote), may be conflating both real and feigned disability (or helplessness), on the one hand, with victimhood , on the other. No doubt...

https://wesleyyang.substack.com/p/on-the-origins-of-the-emotional-support Hi all, I read this article, which both offended and enthralled me, especially the comments. I am, on one hand, extremely defensive. I am, on the other hand, shamefully nodding my head in acknowledgement. This comment summed i...

Just curious, how did the tree project turn out? I did not cut down the tree. And I probably won’t. M did buy me a book to become an arborist and that was fun to read. Had someone look at it and they said magnolia roots are shallow enough not to worry. It also is the only thing blocking my window a...

I believe I will post weekly, mostly to hold myself accountable. I am posting for last week and this week as I completed a goal and am very excited about it Reducing Impulses without (a lot of) medication ---------------- The strides app is really helping me. One of my main issues is inability to fo...

I have decided to only do end-of-the month updates so that I can see some linear progress, hopefully. I have spent a lot of time thinking about my “problems” and have decided that the problem is that I think too much about my problems. And do… nothing. Some small context—I am down to 50 mg Seroquel....

I apologize for my last post. I wanted to vomit after posting it and was too embarrassed to even come back and face the fact that I had written it. Luckily, I think my previous posts have probably ran off much viewership anyways. Unluckily, I've embarrassed myself in front of people that I really li...

Labels I have become even more averse to labels. At one point, egalitarian societies must have found use in them. To know who to gather and who to hunt, and perhaps those were related to gender and sex. Who was a child and who was not. Oh no, I knew the day would come when I would argue for post mod...

I would definitely be on the Austen/Alcott side of cottage core vs Bronte/Hardy. However, my current cottage core look is definitely not photo worthy. I do think some aspects of aging are easier for women such as myself who have never been all that. My sister who was very beautiful seems to be havi...

————— Financial things and such Locking my credit cards is something I should have done years ago. When I was “good” at ERE I would pay them off every month. Then I got a zero interest credit card. Then another. And so it goes. I’ve never made a late payment nor paid interest, but I was getting far ...

My Antipsychotic is down by half, I probably have another 6 months to go before I get off completely, I'm taking my time with it. A noticeable change is in the level of anger I feel, and the ability to express that anger. But sometimes it bubbles up and makes it hard to work or focus. Sometimes my m...

Disappointed by both psychiatry and therapy, I am taking up philosophy. Already, I find it much more interesting, substantial, and logical. At the very least, most philosophers understand that they are making observations, and accept that these observations may be flawed. My doctor (that is what I w...

I have decided to stay away from parts of the forum that I suppose aren’t meant for me but are made for (some people?) I have to say that Jacob’s movement and guidance via his blog and especially his book are things I am eternally grateful for, but getting into subtypes of subtypes of people is not ...

I am sad to see alphaville go. From my perspective, there is quite an ego within this community of “only the most intelligent and strongest beings on this planet will understand the full depth of such an amazing philosophy such as ours.” I think the forum can do with some humility, however I know ma...

Some thoughts as I disentangle myself. The internet, I believe, is very bad for me. I believe it is bad for most people, but for my specific brain—and I believe those who have brains like mine, it is one of the worst possible things. This is because mania is constantly looking for a way to take flig...

Hello my friends, I am once again here to apologize for the mess that you have witnessed. Anyways. It was, how long, 2-3 weeks of me being completely out of commission? By this I mean, I had started chain smoking cigarettes, writing non-sense (not just here, everywhere I could), ordering fast food, ...

Mental illness is very hard to decipher because there are both (what is theorized and widely accepted) chemical and neurological *things* happening while also those things focusing and being filtered by the reality of your life. For me, this seems to focus on: Rebellion followed by terror and then a...

I am not really sure to be honest because I don't know I'm in a cycle until the very end of one (as in right now) and at the tail end of one--the last week or so, my memory is shot. I know it's ending when I start getting borderline comatose and extremely tired. This last one was I suppose two month...

Sigh, all roads lead to me picking up the pieces again. Focus: Environment and health for now. Needed improvements: I have largely stopped eating and coffee intake is at the point where I am getting sick in the afternoons, losing weight rapidly. My environment is currently: hellscape. I don't really...

i was reading and i ran into this amd i had to stop a second and yell that's totally bpd! :lol: and no it's not the big incurable people used to think it was hahaha anyway more later once i read calmly, but from skimming: good for you resuming dbt. i hope your shrink is a good one, ok now i go on t...

I feel sort of tangled and drowning a bit. As I said above I do think I have borderline "symptoms" or as various psychs and therapists have said--"traits." I typically do not mention this as, strangely enough, bipolar has far less stigma than any personality disorder even though ...