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by Gravy Train
Mon Apr 15, 2019 12:06 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Mar. '19 SR: -36% We hemorrhaged money in March. There were two deaths, one large home improvement project, out-of-town guests, and the six-month car insurance payment. We would have been relatively okay if it hadn't been for the deaths. The purse strings are so much looser in times of mourning. ___...
by Gravy Train
Thu Mar 28, 2019 8:44 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 170
Views: 22747

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@Laura. Pretty sure the car thing was a joke about her auto-immune disorder, and they don't exclusively have sex in cars.
7Wannabe5 wrote:
Thu Mar 28, 2019 8:14 am
Then it's like crazy hawt.
:lol: You're my favorite, 7w5.
by Gravy Train
Thu Mar 28, 2019 8:35 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 470
Views: 60192

Re: Book Review: Mindfuless - An Eight-Week Plan

Rather than struggling to understand the difficult feeling - ruminating - the idea is to observe it compassionately and without judgment and by letting it go like watching a cloud float from one horizon across the face of the sun until it disappears beyond the other horizon. I tried this today and ...
by Gravy Train
Wed Mar 27, 2019 3:26 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 170
Views: 22747

Re: Polyamory Support Group

You mentioned that you thought that you might have difficulty finding partners, because your females peers are at the age of wanting to settle down and form a family. I think there is a good deal of truth to this. I fall into the category of J+G's "female peers," so FWIW here's my $0.02. 7w5 is rig...
by Gravy Train
Tue Mar 05, 2019 4:03 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Feb. '19 SR: 33% (with tax deferred retirement contributions+house principal added=73%) February's saving rate was effortless and I'm happy with it. We haven't paid the contractor yet, so I guess March will be the month that takes the hit. I put an extra $1,500 in February towards the principal on t...
by Gravy Train
Fri Feb 15, 2019 2:43 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Dec. '18 SR: 17% (with tax deferred contributions+house principal added=44%) Jan. '19 SR: same February's savings rate will not be great. I got my annual haircut ($80) and hired a contractor for more home improvement ($1700). It's a job I would try to do myself, but there's lots of lifting and sawin...
by Gravy Train
Wed Feb 06, 2019 3:59 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 470
Views: 60192

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Even if it's not exact science it seems pretty spot on. 10+ years of a very happy relationship with the rare bump, and now with a 16 month-old and another on the way I can safely say we're both the unhappiest we've ever been in our marriage. I do all of the negative things in the "fighting style" pa...
by Gravy Train
Wed Feb 06, 2019 10:21 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: An American Millennial
Replies: 267
Views: 50527

Re: An American Millennial

How would someone's interest in yoga, or for that matter muscle cars, disqualify them for a position? It wasn't "muscle cars" that got the laughs, but "20th century," since the 20th century was less than 20 years ago and 20th century compared to what? 18th century muscle cars? :lol: FWIW, we still ...
by Gravy Train
Tue Feb 05, 2019 4:12 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: An American Millennial
Replies: 267
Views: 50527

Re: An American Millennial

Nobody wants to look at a resume... I do! I occasionally have to review and forward resumes and I enjoy the exercise. My unsolicited advice is to keep the formatting generic and not get too crazy in the "Skills and Interests" section. A kid recently included "20th century American muscle cars" as a...
by Gravy Train
Thu Jan 31, 2019 10:10 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

@7w5 - Major props to your sister for being a public defender. I have a lot of respect for those that choose that path. And best of luck to her with her Japanese studies. That's actually what my minor was in and I found it much more difficult than Chinese. I kept conjugating verbs impolitely and ins...
by Gravy Train
Wed Jan 30, 2019 5:59 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: cmonkey's journal
Replies: 889
Views: 161357

Re: cmonkey's journal

Congratulations on the precious little baby girl! Baby girls are the best! Just wait until the house is full of her giggles and tiny footsteps pattering down the hall. :D Wishing you all the best and Mrs. cmonkey a speedy recovery.
by Gravy Train
Wed Jan 30, 2019 12:17 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

I'm amending my goals. Since leaving China in 2012, I've floated around life, letting the pursuit of money dictate my direction. I ended up in a city I never considered living in, working in a profession I never wanted to work in, and now I can feel myself become inflexible. I knew leaving China was...
by Gravy Train
Tue Jan 22, 2019 5:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

That sounds awful. We haven't had to move yet with kids, but we'll outgrow the house in a few years, so the specter of moving is looming dark upon the horizon... I guess I'm just coming to the realization that financially the house costs more, which is the opposite of what I previously thought. Emot...
by Gravy Train
Tue Jan 22, 2019 5:19 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

We've had a pretty good month so far. DH is curtailing his spending, but mostly due to the fact that the government is still shut down and the future of my once steady and sure paycheck is uncertain. I traded the law firm for the government because it seemed like a more reliable work environment for...
by Gravy Train
Tue Jan 08, 2019 5:50 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Fox's Journey: And Onto the Sunlight!
Replies: 782
Views: 117433

Re: Fox's Journey: And Onto the Sunlight!

TopHatFox wrote:
Mon Jan 07, 2019 1:21 pm
I don't really like makeup, but moisturizer and micro-dermabrasion are good.
A hippie... with micro-dermabrasion. Fascinating...

Houston is a possible for your list. Also, I had to Google "micro-dermabrasion."
Editing this to add that Austin is a definite for your list.
by Gravy Train
Fri Jan 04, 2019 5:21 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Haha, oh man. Spent most of today reading your journal (SUPER productive at work today, thanks), and it's like you're my ghost of Christmas Yet to Come. O_o

I better not get hit by a car, dude. That'd be on you.
by Gravy Train
Fri Jan 04, 2019 12:13 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Thanks 7w5! Honored to have you even read my journal. Also, sorry about that last post. Hormones, haha. :oops: Alright, full confession time. My name is Gravy Train and my 3-person household spent $83k in 2018. Eighty three thousand American dollars. Yeah. I realize I have no business on this forum,...
by Gravy Train
Fri Jan 04, 2019 11:06 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Max's Rebound from Academia
Replies: 15
Views: 2025

Re: Max's Rebound from Academia

What order are others approaching this in? When I was getting out of student debt on an entry salary, I first made a list of my student loans and ordered them by interest rate, highest to lowest. I made minimum payments on all, made the minimum contribution to my employer's retirement plan, and hoa...
by Gravy Train
Wed Dec 19, 2018 6:15 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 53
Views: 8155

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Trying to better understand things like "emotional labor" and "display rules." I feel increasingly disconnected, drop my mask more, and care less about the feelings or perceptions of others. I'm not sure this is healthy, especially in my line of work, where the costume is pantyhose and suits and per...
by Gravy Train
Fri Dec 07, 2018 6:03 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Will's journal
Replies: 58
Views: 11976

Re: Will's journal

FWIW, I suffered from panic attacks for years, especially during turbulent times (which it sounds like you're going through, with a new baby and changes at work and a sickness). For me there were tells when a panic attack was coming - a pressure in my chest, a numbing/tingling of my face, labored br...