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by suomalainen
Wed Oct 23, 2019 4:10 pm
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: The Thread Where Nuuka Schools Suo About How Suo is a Sociopath
Replies: 12
Views: 801

Re: The Thread Where Nuuka Schools Suo About How Suo is a Sociopath

@nuuka, you asked for this. First of all, I can’t believe I’m actually responding to this thread. Or that anyone has. I wrote this as a joke challenge to see if Nuuka had the balls to go from shitting on my living room carpet to shitting in public in the middle of the yard. So. Good dog. Hopefully y...
by suomalainen
Tue Oct 22, 2019 8:52 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Jesus Christ. What the fuck is wrong with you people? Get the fuck out of my journal.
by suomalainen
Thu Oct 17, 2019 6:46 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Halfmoon's journal
Replies: 554
Views: 83462

Re: Halfmoon's journal

I ctrl-a, ctrl-c (or command-a/ command-c, or select all / copy or whatever your os has) before I hit the submit button, having lost a post or two. Back button sometimes works. Anyway, welcome back halfmoon. Hope all is well with you and your dh.
by suomalainen
Thu Oct 10, 2019 11:19 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: ffj's early retirement
Replies: 729
Views: 136221

Re: ffj's early retirement

I had my house appraised several years ago for a refinance. He showed up in a corvette, spent no more than 30 seconds in the house, and while he was walking upstairs he asks, “This for a refinance?” I said “yes”. He asks “how much?” I say “$190k” He says “hm.” The appraisal came back at 190/.8=237.5...
by suomalainen
Thu Oct 10, 2019 9:33 am
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: May-December Relationships, In-Vitro Fertilization, Freezing Eggs, and Other Considerations
Replies: 98
Views: 8190

Re: May-December Relationships, In-Vitro Fertilization, Freezing Eggs, and Other Considerations

If I may*, this thread has certainly had its moments, but the takeaway for me is this: you opened this thread with a wild tale (from the persepective of a disiniterested observer) and a question that basically is “am I being impatient?” You included vivid details of your beau, your attitude towards ...
by suomalainen
Wed Oct 09, 2019 8:22 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gravy Train's Journal
Replies: 128
Views: 15640

Re: Gravy Train's Journal

Ooh, I made the irl list! I’m honored. As you can imagine if you read my latest, I can relate to your domestic, parental and personal challenges. Best I can say is I agree with 7w5 - know thyself and consciously choose the best path for yourself and your family that aligns with your goals and values...
by suomalainen
Wed Oct 09, 2019 7:59 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Oh jesus some of you are just...so...missing...the...point... To those that aren’t, I appreciate your thoughts and empathy. I wasn’t really looking for advice, as I know what to do and how to do it. It just sucks. So I came here to express that it sucks. If you can’t understand what I’m going throug...
by suomalainen
Tue Oct 08, 2019 6:19 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

@peanut I don't know what kind of relationships you've been in, but if we stop talking...it's over. I mean, it might be over anyway if we can't figure out how to "talk better", but not talking at all, shit... @ek I think I've spent 1.5 jacobs on personal therapy. I know there's a bias towards "stick...
by suomalainen
Tue Oct 08, 2019 12:32 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

@cL gets it. @smashter is kinda where I’m at. @peanut and @ego say true things, just not applicable to this exact situation. I’m not a closed-off, non-intimate man. I’ve been BEGGING for this for 18 years (probably pathetically at times and not pathetically at other times). Two ships, etc. We’ve don...
by suomalainen
Tue Oct 08, 2019 8:17 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Oh @nuuka, maybe some day you’ll be able to get out of that head of yours and see the beautiful nuance that exists in this world. Depression says that you're tired and need to rest when you're really missing on positive emotions. @vaikeasti, Yes, this is exactly it. I don’t need a job or my wife or ...
by suomalainen
Mon Oct 07, 2019 8:28 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Do Something

A phrase I keep stumbling on in my latest ruminations (I know, I know) is “do something”. I had written up some thoughts on this phrase in a political context (where I’d seen a news report of a crowd chanting this at a rally or speech or meeting with a politician), but it ended up feeling too distra...
by suomalainen
Sun Oct 06, 2019 2:45 pm
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: May-December Relationships, In-Vitro Fertilization, Freezing Eggs, and Other Considerations
Replies: 98
Views: 8190

Re: May-December Relationships, In-Vitro Fertilization, Freezing Eggs, and Other Considerations

and does not force me to live the horrors being endured by @Suo and @Augustus.
Hahahaha. Hear that, @Augustus? We’re living the horrors!! Hahahahahaa. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Oh man.
by suomalainen
Sat Oct 05, 2019 5:46 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Call Out to HSP INFJs: what makes you feel content/useful?
Replies: 45
Views: 3641

Re: Call Out to HSP INFJs: what makes you feel content/useful?

I find this the most practical and useful advice here: you’ll be happier when you stop the analysis paralysis and navel gazing and go out and do stuff, meet people, have different experiences. Some you will like. Do more of those, and more similar to those. Some you will hate or will feel really unc...
by suomalainen
Fri Oct 04, 2019 8:40 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: classical_Liberal's Semi-ERE
Replies: 378
Views: 58912

Re: classical_Liberal's Semi-ERE

Very impressed with how quickly you and the gf saw the issue, identified the issue, owned your respective emotions, took responsibility for your own contributions and were able to address the issue, in what appears to be a very efficient and mature-like manner. So not at all what happens in my neck ...
by suomalainen
Wed Oct 02, 2019 3:55 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Hmmm. I work well with smart people who know what they are doing. With them, I enable their goals and maybe even occasionally give them good advice (I’m a lawyer). I don’t work as well with people who don’t know their business, unless they just defer to my advice, which is fine. What I can’t abide, ...
by suomalainen
Wed Oct 02, 2019 1:17 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja
Replies: 543
Views: 73200

Re: Suomalaisen Päiväkirja

Easy, no interest.

Edit: I can’t abide idiots. A key management skill appears to be abiding idiots. I can’t do it and have no desire to learn it.
by suomalainen
Tue Sep 24, 2019 7:55 am
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: On ERE and Mental Health issues
Replies: 18
Views: 2063

Re: On ERE and Mental Health issues

@jp - “well, suo, I have sooo many great posts, it’s hard to know to which you are referring.” :lol: ;) it was the personal mission one.
by suomalainen
Mon Sep 23, 2019 10:41 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Vaikeasti to ERE - Family Journal
Replies: 39
Views: 4055

Re: Vaikeasti to ERE - Family Journal

There was a post I came across recently, but I can't find it now, that basically had a picture of two people talking to each other and inside their heads they had "Bob's model of Alice" and "Alice's model of Bob" and "Bob's model of Alice's model of Bob" and "Alice's model of Bob's model of Alice" a...
by suomalainen
Mon Sep 23, 2019 10:30 pm
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: On ERE and Mental Health issues
Replies: 18
Views: 2063

Re: On ERE and Mental Health issues

Well, first things first. I can't remember where it was, but there was a thread where @jp included a Maslow's hierarchy of needs and it fit within the ERE-ish conversation and was super good and thoughtful and stuff. @jp - do you remember? And mental health is about as basic as you can get on that p...