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by saving-10-years
Fri Dec 15, 2017 7:34 am
Forum: Inspiration
Topic: Inspire me please? Feeling down.
Replies: 27
Views: 1303

Re: Inspire me please? Feeling down.

@campitor - wonderful quote and one which serves so well to address an earlier @THF question about rumour. Slightly off-topic. This particular quote so much addresses the concerns I have about criticism via social media. When we visited the Coliseum in Rome in 2016 I was reminded of tier upon tier o...
by saving-10-years
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:11 pm
Forum: DIY Skills Questions
Topic: Sedentary indoor cold wear
Replies: 39
Views: 1606

Re: Sedentary indoor cold wear

+1 to wearing a hat indoors (woollen) and wearing wool socks and jumpers. Because we have lots of wool here and I can prep, spin and knit it, this is a virtually free of charge clothing option around here. Only downside is that I am not the fastest knitter. Not all yarn is equal in terms of how it i...
by saving-10-years
Thu Dec 07, 2017 4:37 pm
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@RiggerJack Now I feel under pressure to say something well thought out! Well its been THE thread for me for deleting messages and deciding not to send. Often because by the time I get there I can see that what I have written won't be helpful. I have found your personal disclosures really interestin...
by saving-10-years
Sun Nov 19, 2017 5:53 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@Campitor, Its great to shine a bright light on these practices and make life more difficult for those that knowingly shield predators. The light shone on non-disclosure's is also good thing (part of the fall out from this) e.g. http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/harvey-weins...
by saving-10-years
Fri Nov 17, 2017 7:32 am
Forum: DIY Skills Questions
Topic: Weird food combos that taste surprisingly good
Replies: 34
Views: 1904

Re: Weird food combos that taste surprisingly good

Stilton (blue cheese) with Christmas (i.e. rich fruit) cake.

Maybe no so strange but hummus stirred into pasta becomes a very nice sauce. Also like it as filling in baked potatoes.
by saving-10-years
Tue Nov 14, 2017 1:28 pm
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@BRUTE if the same action has very different consequences depending on its context, that can be very confusing for humans. Yes. Agreed. Sorry if I've been adding to that. I am not talking about inappropriate looking, banter, catcalling or wearing/displaying offensive images as automatically equating...
by saving-10-years
Tue Nov 14, 2017 5:20 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@Jacob Thanks for the systems thinking approach and bringing up bandits. That answers my question about 'why'. But I am noting that @Jacob says ...AND bandit-attempts have almost no costs and almost no risk, There are costs (see what @jp says about ass grabbing and how that makes her feel a long whi...
by saving-10-years
Mon Nov 13, 2017 6:05 am
Forum: DIY Skills Questions
Topic: Tiny house build? Should I buy it or not?
Replies: 18
Views: 877

Re: Tiny house build? Should I buy it or not?

@ffj Sounds like a good deal if you like the design or can modify it (I am assuming that there is a sleeping loft over the kitchen and bathroom but its not one you can sit up in easily?) Do you have a space where you can work on it (are they selling because they have lost interest/lack time and don'...
by saving-10-years
Sun Nov 12, 2017 6:26 pm
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@c40 Its hard to know what the context is when you see touching and sexualised behaviour between two people you don't know. When it involves people you do know (at the receiving or giving end of what appears to be unwanted sexual approaches) then I see that you did act. Reaction could be keeping a w...
by saving-10-years
Sun Nov 12, 2017 11:34 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

would you have been as likely to ask a man to prove he made something clear, or to even think was reasonable to do so? Yes. I would (and have done so). My husband is nodding in agreement. I don't have (and may never have had) a problem with challenging authority. Male or otherwise. Keeping my mouth...
by saving-10-years
Sun Nov 12, 2017 10:42 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

the fact that I have had to say that "I made it clear" THREE TIMES in the one thread is a perfect example of how women aren't listened to/taken seriously @cs. You are angry and you may have cause (although I feel its stretch to call this particular behaviour predatory or sexual misconduct). What I ...
by saving-10-years
Sun Nov 12, 2017 4:04 am
Forum: Politics, and other eternal disagreements
Topic: sexual misconduct
Replies: 261
Views: 13268

Re: sexual misconduct

@jennypenny Thanks for raising this. I am a decade older than you and so have had a further 10 years to try and understand all this. When I was younger, unwanted male attention was a big thing in my life. Guys frotting against me in bus queues, complete strangers making comments about my boobs, wait...
by saving-10-years
Mon Nov 06, 2017 3:43 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: A Journey of Mindfulness--the Remaking of Life in Midstream.
Replies: 394
Views: 85399

Re: A Journey of Mindfulness--the Remaking of Life in Midstream.

Congrats on the financial progress. Enjoy the guitar. I buy spinning wheels and some of these can be relatively expensive but when one comes in another goes out to help fund it (or _could_ do so). I look at it as research towards finding out what is the perfect match and how different wheels work. S...
by saving-10-years
Fri Nov 03, 2017 8:54 am
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

@CS Female speaking here and as an INTJ I speak directly also. I don't think @Jason needs me to defend him but can I say that I don't think he is a misogynist*. I can see why you are offended. He does after all set out to offend. But he appears to like to push everyone/anyone (seems to be his nature...
by saving-10-years
Fri Nov 03, 2017 5:59 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: The Reluctant Journal
Replies: 238
Views: 58864

Re: The Reluctant Journal

@1task Congrats to your husband on being able to retire. What I found when I did this at 57 (not on full pension but about 0.5 to 0.66 what others could have got) many colleagues also wanted to be able to retire but were not permitting themselves to think it was possible. Several felt they could not...
by saving-10-years
Wed Nov 01, 2017 2:19 pm
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

@jp Like and agree with your comment - 'Come for the food, stay for the company'. @Jacob, initially I was here for answers/expertise but (perhaps truest of FI folk on here?) I come back repeatedly for the community. Yes, if something happens in the world then here I will find trusted opinions (and i...
by saving-10-years
Wed Nov 01, 2017 7:24 am
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

@7w5 - obvious to me anyway. Love reading your sideways stuff. Don't always understand it but that it part of the fun. When I read @Fish's first post here I thought (still think) I understood where he was coming from and what annoyed him. My pet peeve is people with an agenda/argument that they ask ...
by saving-10-years
Wed Nov 01, 2017 4:25 am
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

@Fish, thanks for starting the discussion, its been really illuminating and very interesting to read about posters (like you) who draft and redraft and sometimes don't send. Even @Jacob deleted a post here and (after rethinking that) reintroduced a version of it. All shows how many here are very tho...
by saving-10-years
Thu Oct 26, 2017 5:49 pm
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

Thanks for re-creating this @Jacob. Did not see it first time around. Most of what you say I understand/agree with, but the 'valley' metaphor does not resonate with me. I think that old-timers might underestimate what happens when new people come along and start reading here. What is here is huge, b...
by saving-10-years
Thu Oct 26, 2017 1:29 am
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: Forum Posting Ethics
Replies: 87
Views: 4946

Re: Forum Posting Ethics

+1 to fan mail for jp. I am interested in her theories about time perception and gender TBW (won't say more as that would hijack the thread). @Fish, I can get irritated (IRL and on forums) by people who ask for advice and then don't read the links/believe evidence/listen to counter arguments. I thin...
by saving-10-years
Wed Oct 25, 2017 5:44 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Fish's Enlightenment
Replies: 20
Views: 2755

Re: Fish's Enlightenment

Anyway, the part of my life that I'm finding objectionable is not work, but commuting to work. That's 10 hours of my week on an activity that is completely unnecessary with good lifestyle design. Without changing jobs or moving house, I think the best that can be managed is a de-facto work-from-hom...
by saving-10-years
Wed Oct 25, 2017 5:31 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Halfmoon's journal
Replies: 474
Views: 45388

Re: Halfmoon's journal

And bees. Lovely picture.
by saving-10-years
Sun Oct 22, 2017 2:20 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Halfmoon's journal
Replies: 474
Views: 45388

Re: Halfmoon's journal

Gosh. First welcome back. You have been missed. Glad you have the rental stuff sorted and thank you - will all other things going on - for dropping by to make our jaws drop once more. No problem (for me) with the 'epically bad photo quality' or missed photo opportunities. I too date from an era when...
by saving-10-years
Thu Oct 19, 2017 6:24 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: What do you spend per YEAR / MONTH / DAY and person
Replies: 13
Views: 932

Re: What do you spend per YEAR / MONTH / DAY and person

If you look at the link I gave earlier you will see CoL (excluding rent) and also cost of food indices. The difference I quoted was in CoL excluding rent. So these costs do differ. Rent and transport may be the main costs in a budget but there are other variations. Right now in the UK its cooling do...
by saving-10-years
Thu Oct 19, 2017 4:01 am
Forum: Inspiration
Topic: Patti Smith Royally Fucks Up
Replies: 2
Views: 589

Re: Patti Smith Royally Fucks Up

I don't know that I would agree. Definitely a very human performance and a reminder that its possible to over-think things.