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Two months per year of marriage equals more than 5 years of rebound…damn, I may need to start wearing form-fitting yoga pants.

It is interesting/funny how they seem to start popping right out of the woodwork as soon as you even start to slightly signal availability.

Yes, I've definitely noticed this. OTOH, it's become easier to find a new pair of jeans on the clearance rack for $4 at the same super-store where you might simultaneously be paying $8 for a jumbo pack of toilet paper. I remember BRUTE making the point once that a cheap textile is a cheap textile, a...

That's the difference between those who can think in systems, and those who cannot - the former has abstracted the back-end of the causal function twice, and the latter has not. I believe this is also what happens at Level 6 on the Sexuality Wheaton Table. Weinberg in "Introduction to General ...

I grok what you are attempting to communicate, but the funny or interesting note would be that although dead common activity in the realm of gardening, growing a tomato plant in the Midwest is kind of like learning to drive a car when you are 16. It's only easy and common, because all the hard work ...

When you're working with only very small acreage under your direct control, your permaculture project may very well initially resemble a collection of bio-intensive vegetable beds. However, starting from scratch every spring with a defined production goal in mind is akin to bringing a factory produc...

I don't know if this counts as 1 day, but I have purchased a rare book for $1 and listed it for sale for $1500 the same day and sold it for that price within a few days. The stock market is relatively too efficient to expect similar results.

I think one of the earliest insights that allowed me to have a good relationship with my children as adults was observing how from very early childhood, given a wide variety of choices, they would consistently choose books that were not what I would have chosen to read. So, I likely erred on the sid...

I don't have very much to offer in terms of rehashing the same old EROI arguments beyond "yeah, doesn't everybody know all this already? ... Yeah, I wish there were some radically new perspectives which we could read and talk about. I feel like I've read myself in a circle already, but I'm too...

Personally, I think of free will and agency as opposites (despite conflating them as the same in my description of 2nd order thinkers). The less you know about your own decision making process, the more you believe in free will, and the less agency you have. The more you actually understand how you...

Interesting. One of my downfalls as an educator is my inability to create the envronment of consistent discipline needed for transition from 2nd to 3rd. I've often found it helpful to have another adult human who is at K3-rules oriented-in the room. I do find it rather fascinating working on math wi...

Someone has to say it Many have already said it for me. Looking at a Thomas Kincade painting is like snorting French Vanilla Coffee Creamer cups up your nose in the Ladies room bathroom stall at an expressway exit Cracker Barrel. Barcelo's work is strong and masterful. My food metaphor will be weak...

I see it a bit differently, perhaps mostly because I don't really think having sex with strangers is overall a good thing. My opinion on that is not very strong and perhaps a subject to change one day, but right now, the thought of two virtual strangers fucking does not make me think this is the hi...

If prefers video games, dick, or solipsism, well then maybe you can walk around looking like Barbarella although I doubt that will change anything. It's then Frita's personal views towards divorce. Playing along: I think my spouse would see the picture, come up and dazzle 37 year with his people-pl...

What in the actual fuck? :lol: Just my rather ornate way of communicating what you wrote here: Changing the status quo results in unexpected follow-on effects. Primary among these is the unanticipated personal learning and growth mentioned above, but the other real surprise is seeing how your (form...

From: Frita's journal. zbigi wrote: 1. The idea of "ordering men from Internet" is very objectifying towards men. I get that many women actually do treat men as disposable sex objects (no different how many men treat women), but let's not promote that. I wrote: Hmmm...I do apologize if I o...

1. The idea of "ordering men from Internet" is very objectifying towards men. I get that many women actually do treat men as disposable sex objects (no different how many men treat women), but let's not promote that. Hmmm...I do apologize if I offended the sensibilities of any of the more...

He told me to use our place as a homebase while I figure out how to “go away and leave him alone.” Total bullshit. Why is he ruler over the home domain? Get a lawyer and kick his sorry ass to the curb. Maybe he doesn't care about marriage or you or kid, but you do have the advantage of knowing the ...

• Going to library and reading or listening to podcasts for a few hours. • Shutting door to his bedroom/former guestroom and doing whatever. • Attending basketball games alone. Have you considered that he might be meeting, or attempting to meet, other people for sex? I may be completely off the wal...

Indeed, we need an WL for every path towards better living #clue Maybe we could also benefit from some other models? I dug out my copy of "An Introduction to General Systems Theory" by Weinberg (I thought I had read it previously, but apparently was thinking of another book by Rutherford)...

What a fun adventure!