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Interesting. One of my downfalls as an educator is my inability to create the envronment of consistent discipline needed for transition from 2nd to 3rd. I've often found it helpful to have another adult human who is at K3-rules oriented-in the room. I do find it rather fascinating working on math wi...

Someone has to say it Many have already said it for me. Looking at a Thomas Kincade painting is like snorting French Vanilla Coffee Creamer cups up your nose in the Ladies room bathroom stall at an expressway exit Cracker Barrel. Barcelo's work is strong and masterful. My food metaphor will be weak...

I see it a bit differently, perhaps mostly because I don't really think having sex with strangers is overall a good thing. My opinion on that is not very strong and perhaps a subject to change one day, but right now, the thought of two virtual strangers fucking does not make me think this is the hi...

If prefers video games, dick, or solipsism, well then maybe you can walk around looking like Barbarella although I doubt that will change anything. It's then Frita's personal views towards divorce. Playing along: I think my spouse would see the picture, come up and dazzle 37 year with his people-pl...

What in the actual fuck? :lol: Just my rather ornate way of communicating what you wrote here: Changing the status quo results in unexpected follow-on effects. Primary among these is the unanticipated personal learning and growth mentioned above, but the other real surprise is seeing how your (form...

From: Frita's journal. zbigi wrote: 1. The idea of "ordering men from Internet" is very objectifying towards men. I get that many women actually do treat men as disposable sex objects (no different how many men treat women), but let's not promote that. I wrote: Hmmm...I do apologize if I o...

1. The idea of "ordering men from Internet" is very objectifying towards men. I get that many women actually do treat men as disposable sex objects (no different how many men treat women), but let's not promote that. Hmmm...I do apologize if I offended the sensibilities of any of the more...

He told me to use our place as a homebase while I figure out how to “go away and leave him alone.” Total bullshit. Why is he ruler over the home domain? Get a lawyer and kick his sorry ass to the curb. Maybe he doesn't care about marriage or you or kid, but you do have the advantage of knowing the ...

• Going to library and reading or listening to podcasts for a few hours. • Shutting door to his bedroom/former guestroom and doing whatever. • Attending basketball games alone. Have you considered that he might be meeting, or attempting to meet, other people for sex? I may be completely off the wal...

Indeed, we need an WL for every path towards better living #clue Maybe we could also benefit from some other models? I dug out my copy of "An Introduction to General Systems Theory" by Weinberg (I thought I had read it previously, but apparently was thinking of another book by Rutherford)...

What a fun adventure!

he says having a wife and kids isn’t for him. If he hasn't made an appointment with a lawyer and there is no third-party involvement, then in typical man-speak this translates to "Waaaaaah." I don’t believe in divorce either. So, you do believe in "marriage." What does that look...

Hmmm...I might be an oddball, because I enjoy tracking, but have become fairly "numb" to the process or practice, in the sense that I've somewhat come to regard myself as a lab rat absent of agency. As in "Once again in May of 2024 an abundance of pastry kcals have been recorded. I wo...

Being yellow is lone wolf territory. I agree, but I'm experiencing "yellow" and/or "becoming increasingly old and jaded" in a manner such that "belonging" seems like the distant memory of wanting a best friend to hold my hand as I walked to kindergarten. I just totter ...

@Frita: Yes, and I also think that as ENTP there is a tendency to sometimes put on social roles or costumes simply as a means to gain access to different social environments towards core drive of exploration. Following the dictum of "When in Rome..." is actually the opposite of blind confo...

What fun! The great thing about a piece of property like that is that you can do absolutely nothing, or whatever you like, at your own pace. One thing you might want to do, if you haven't already, is verify the legal identity and boundaries of your land. On my second permaculture project, which was ...

I think this cross-over is mostly an effect of the SalaryMan vs. PassiveInvestor dichotomy. It wouldn't look quite the same from the perspective of a WorkingMan starting out applying his own Human Capital with his own small set of Tools as he ratchets his tools and skills up towards BusinessMan. One...

@Jean: Yeah, I can see how it might seem like that. One reason for that might be that I'm not a terribly romantic human, and time goes by differently when you get old, so I haven't been "in love" with anybody for around 6 or 7 years now, but that doesn't seem like that long ago when you're...

My scores were: Total 56, Compensation 24, Masking 16, Assimilation 16. I would note that some of the questions might apply to somebody who is shy or socially submissive as much as somebody who is on the autism spectrum. Also, many humans who are not on the spectrum have "practiced" being/...

Since you asked this question on the Polyamory Support thread, my first question would be what do you mean by saying you are "single again" within the context of polyamory? The reason why I ask is that I think there was only maybe one 2 week period in the almost 10 years since I declared m...