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by fuyu
Sat Mar 23, 2019 1:56 pm
Forum: ERE Book/Blog/Forum
Topic: The atmosphere of the forum...
Replies: 145
Views: 11704

Re: The atmosphere of the forum...

Don’t take my word on anything though … I thought my post last week would encourage more women to post and instead it has had the opposite effect. I’ll admit I don’t get it. Many of the struggles women face when trying to be heard IRL — being interrupted or talked over or physically crowded out — a...
by fuyu
Tue Mar 19, 2019 4:12 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: What accounting software do you all use?
Replies: 10
Views: 1226

Re: What accounting software do you all use?

Does Excel count? I use it to record my expenses and income and calculate my tax expenses.
by fuyu
Sat Mar 16, 2019 5:03 pm
Forum: Work & Education
Topic: Working hours
Replies: 27
Views: 2824

Re: Working hours

About 800 +/- 30 hours in 2018 for main income ($31,300 before tax), so about 15 to 16 hours a week on average.
by fuyu
Sat Mar 16, 2019 11:49 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: Random Relationship Derailment Thread
Replies: 273
Views: 23643

Re: Random Relationship Derailment Thread

I think the ERE forum is one of the most interesting forums, and the only one I regularly return to lurk ^^;;. People here are so very generous with their thoughts and helpful advice. Even if there are a few guys who complain about women and say sexist things, there are more people that very patient...
by fuyu
Tue Jan 15, 2019 2:48 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Become FI to win the game instead of getting to XYZ reward
Replies: 31
Views: 3726

Re: Become FI to win the game instead of getting to XYZ reward

Quitting my job pretty much removed all the stress I felt and gave me back over 40 hours of free time each week, but I don't feel noticeably happier. I'm not FI yet, but I earn enough from my less than 10 hours a week hobby that I'm not worried about money. I didn't think FI will be a panacea. It's ...
by fuyu
Fri Apr 13, 2018 9:32 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: How to be optimistic all the time? Presenting genuinely v. happily
Replies: 50
Views: 3859

Re: How to be optimistic all the time? Presenting genuinely v. happily

Just wanted to say that I really appreciate THF for asking this question and everyone’s well-thought responses. It’s so different and interesting from my default thinking. I usually accept that I’m feeling happy, content, unhappy, etc at the moment and that no matter what, this feeling will pass. So...
by fuyu
Wed Mar 07, 2018 5:25 pm
Forum: Money Questions
Topic: Patreon users
Replies: 30
Views: 4320

Re: Patreon users

I use it for my translations of Chinese novels. Here's a history of my earnings as of today if it would be helpful, usually the amount for the current month will increase until last week of the month. But, there's over a thousand translators and probably less than 10 translation groups earn over $50...
by fuyu
Thu Feb 08, 2018 1:55 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Fox's Journey: And Onto the Sunlight!
Replies: 781
Views: 114156

Re: Fox's Journey: Out of the Burrow

Do your parents really like their jobs? Why did you originally have such an optimistic view of work? Even before I started working full-time, from how my parents and friends' parents felt about their work, I thought a job was just being an obedient minion while selling time and energy for money and ...
by fuyu
Sun Jan 28, 2018 3:55 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

My worries are more about the puppy. It's kept in a crate? Are these veal farmers, or what? Is this normal treatment of a pet in America? I'm not a dog person, my experience is restricted to my childhood. My parents rewarded me when I was about 11 by getting a puppy. I'd always been fond of nature ...
by fuyu
Fri Jan 26, 2018 7:30 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

... She's a really good friend usually. And the definition of a really good friend is... ? Hmm... hard to put into words. For me, the difference between friend and close acquaintance is would I be willing to go out of my way to visit them if they didn't live nearby and would they would do the same ...
by fuyu
Fri Jan 26, 2018 6:39 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

I’m free =)! Best friend found a daycare near her husband's office that she likes. Other than asking me one time if I can continue watching the puppy once a week (and I said no), she seemed okay with me stopping and wasn't behaving differently. In hindsight, I should have said I didn’t want to take ...
by fuyu
Tue Jan 23, 2018 8:16 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

@ EdithKeeler: Their puppy seem to be pretty happy most of the time. He's usually wagging his tail and really likes people.
by fuyu
Mon Jan 22, 2018 11:32 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

This thread is surreal. I'm going to be extremely rude so sorry in advance, but based on the facts told here, I would take a wild guess and say your friend is a complete jerk. Think about it this way: would you ask this to a friend? If the answer is no, why no? I would never do it because I see my ...
by fuyu
Sun Jan 21, 2018 11:19 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

I talked with my best friend and after asking what they would do if I went back to work at the end of the month (They said they would put in him into doggy daycare), I blurted out that I want my free time back instead of using a commitment as an excuse to stop. It felt so freeing to say those words ...
by fuyu
Sat Jan 20, 2018 4:10 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

saving-10-years wrote:
Sat Jan 20, 2018 4:01 pm

Side question. Do you really think that the husband's boss changed his mind about the homeworking. Or did the husband beg not to work at home (with the puppy).
I think so. Why would he lie to me or want to commute to work when he can work from home?
by fuyu
Sat Jan 20, 2018 3:41 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

They _might_ think that this is a favour for you (they love and wish to be with the puppy full time so you are so lucky to have this). I don't think so? They know that I wouldn't want to adopt a cat or dog because I don't want the responsibility if that counts. And every morning, I say that even fo...
by fuyu
Sat Jan 20, 2018 1:36 am
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

@halfmoon: For me, part of friendship is thinking that if this task doesn't inconvenience me much, but it would inconvenience my friend a lot if I say no, I should say yes. In general, not just with the puppy. This seems harmless? I really don't mind at all if its something I think is minor. Each ti...
by fuyu
Fri Jan 19, 2018 7:38 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

Forgot to ask, what would be a reasonable time to give them to find a professional pet sitter to replace me? Two weeks? Not sure how long it would normally take to find someone
by fuyu
Fri Jan 19, 2018 3:47 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

@ Jason Lol, thank you for putting it in perspective. I was mostly worried that their puppy would get bullied in doggy day care. Some of things are really ridiculous like I have to constantly watch their puppy and make sure he touches a bell before he pees or poops (so far only 40% success rate). An...
by fuyu
Fri Jan 19, 2018 2:59 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: indefinite pet sitting
Replies: 47
Views: 6413

Re: indefinite pet sitting

I should have mentioned in the first post that I don't want my friends to pay me. I just want my free time back. Thank you for the advice! I'm going to take the avoiding being honest route by signing up for afternoon yoga classes once the weather is warmer. Should I also say that I don't think I sho...