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by llorona
Wed Apr 08, 2020 2:03 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Llorona's Log, Take II
Replies: 7
Views: 2055

Re: Llorona's Log, Take II

It's been a while! FINANCES & INCOME I don't know my net worth at the moment. I'm scared to look. Work-wise, spring was already shaping up to be slow, but once the COVID-19 lockdown began in mid-March, projects decreased to a trickle. I have minimal work, meaning I'll be lucky to generate 40% of my ...
by llorona
Sat Mar 21, 2020 6:27 pm
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: Exercise and Covid19
Replies: 11
Views: 1144

Re: Exercise and Covid19

Gyms here have been closed since last week, and I stopped going about a week before that. On alternating days, I've been either walking or doing a combination of bodyweight exercises (squats, pushups, crunches, etc.) and stretching.

Gonna look up the prison cell workouts that Sclass recommended...
by llorona
Thu Mar 19, 2020 3:25 am
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: COVID-19
Replies: 3365
Views: 220682

Re: COVID-19

How is the forced isolation in SF going? Is anyone on here not totally isolating aside from groceries? I'm considering small gatherings of friends (like 1-on-1) who also have no symptoms after I'm done quarantining. Is this horribly irresponsible? Everyone I know is complying with the shelter in pl...
by llorona
Fri Mar 13, 2020 2:25 am
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: COVID-19
Replies: 3365
Views: 220682

Re: COVID-19

Here in the Bay Area, it's quiet. Schools and universities are closing, and nearly all group events are being cancelled. For the first time that I can recall, several of my nonprofit clients have either suspended their programs or have asked their employees to work from home. Most of this is volunta...
by llorona
Thu Mar 05, 2020 2:55 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Anyone prepping for corona?
Replies: 396
Views: 40567

Re: Anyone prepping for corona?

Ordered a bunch of non-perishable food online from Walmart last week. Since we live in earthquake country, we needed to stock up on emergency supplies anyway. Haven't been to Costco, but husband was at Trader Joe's yesterday and said it appeared normal, except for the lack of hand sanitizer. My husb...
by llorona
Tue Jan 14, 2020 3:25 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@Jin + Guice: A munch is a gathering where kinky people come together to socialize, usually in a bar, cafe, or restaurant. Sometimes munches are for specific groups or themes -- here in the Bay Area, you can find munches for people of color, LGBT, arts and crafts, shibari/rope, etc. Because these gr...
by llorona
Fri Oct 25, 2019 2:08 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

Autonomy, self-respect, joie de vivre, and imagination come to mind. Also, I must admit that going to the salon for the first time in over 3 years and throwing down $75 to get your hair back to a uniform pale yellow absent frayed ends and tangles doesn't hurt. Also purchased a burgundy leather jack...
by llorona
Tue Oct 22, 2019 6:25 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@J+G: Don't mean to compare because relationships are so different, but there does seem to be an awful lot of tension and strife with your girlfriend. So, females who choose to practice polyamory need to possess enough personal wherewithal (assortment of capital forms) to overcome both stigma and ec...
by llorona
Thu Aug 01, 2019 2:06 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

How do you split the difference between booty call vs. date if your intention is non-monogamy? Accommodations, feelings, or FITB? I would say that any encounter, no matter how brief, with a man who had previously declared his affectionate attachment would not be a booty call. Otherwise, I might dra...
by llorona
Thu Jul 18, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

According to a book on attachment theory ("Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment"), roughly half of people are securely attached, 20% are anxious, and 25% are avoidant. The remaining 5% are mixed. The authors believe that the dating pool contains a disproportionate number of avoidants becaus...
by llorona
Wed Jul 17, 2019 5:59 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

How are everyone's relationships/love affairs going? The week after I cleaned out my harem, I met someone who was also kinky, poly (well, a relationship anarchist), and in an open marriage. Crackling chemistry and connection. (Warning sign!) For a couple months, we had a great time dating, going to ...
by llorona
Wed May 01, 2019 9:02 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: BIFL kitched knife that won't break a budget?
Replies: 26
Views: 4263

Re: BIFL kitched knife that won't break a budget?

About 15 years ago, I bought a seven-piece set of Wusthof classic knives. I only use three -- chef's knife, paring knife, and utility knife. These are sturdy knives that come with a lifetime guarantee. I've actually tested this; a piece of a knife handle broke, and the company replaced it without qu...
by llorona
Wed May 01, 2019 2:33 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

I wouldn't be at all surprised if you find yourself once again responding to approach by one of these partners. It's very easy to become overwhelmed by practice of polyamory, but it also has a certain draw. No. Exes are exes for a reason. Once men cross a line with me, there is no redemption. Plus,...
by llorona
Mon Apr 29, 2019 5:16 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@7WB5: Well, no. If humans were 100% transparent all the time, we would have killed each other off a long time ago. :D Guess I'm just feeling a little protective and upset on your behalf - not that you need it, because apparently you kicked ass in the renegotiation. I'm also possibly projecting a a ...
by llorona
Sun Apr 28, 2019 10:54 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@7WB5: Still trying to wrap my head around the dynamic. But I wouldn't be inclined to think kindly of someone who was planning on replacing me, or splashed my headless photo around the internet. At a minimum, seems like communication and transparency are missing.
by llorona
Tue Apr 23, 2019 2:24 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@WB5: Wait. What???

Get the tattoo.
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:45 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Ella's Journal
Replies: 64
Views: 10821

Re: Ella's Journal

You are intelligent. No doubt. It comes across in your writing. No answers for you, just want to offer solidarity in dealing with mental health issues and the losses that ensue, both from the condition itself and medication. I've been on antidepressants for 20 years for major depression; while the m...
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:37 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

Since I intend to start actively dating again at some juncture in the near future, I am also wondering about how to handle dating apps as polyamorous female. If I come right out with it on profile, I am pretty certain I will be bombarded with even more unwanted attention than usual, so I didn't do ...
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:20 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

As far as the kink community goes, what's the best way to get involved? I'm currently interested in more vanilla things, but they do seem like natural allies and I don't have much experience exploring the options they may have to offer. You might want to check out an app called Feeld. That's where ...
by llorona
Fri Mar 29, 2019 6:05 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 274
Views: 46504

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@WannaBe: Good thing you and I are too old for babies! (Sorry if that's a presumption on my part.) After extensive discussion, here are agreements that DH and I have reached: 1. DH moves much slower than me, like glacially so. Thus far he's only had flirtations. But yes, he can bring his paramours o...