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by llorona
Thu Aug 01, 2019 2:06 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

How do you split the difference between booty call vs. date if your intention is non-monogamy? Accommodations, feelings, or FITB? I would say that any encounter, no matter how brief, with a man who had previously declared his affectionate attachment would not be a booty call. Otherwise, I might dra...
by llorona
Thu Jul 18, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

According to a book on attachment theory ("Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment"), roughly half of people are securely attached, 20% are anxious, and 25% are avoidant. The remaining 5% are mixed. The authors believe that the dating pool contains a disproportionate number of avoidants becaus...
by llorona
Wed Jul 17, 2019 5:59 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

How are everyone's relationships/love affairs going? The week after I cleaned out my harem, I met someone who was also kinky, poly (well, a relationship anarchist), and in an open marriage. Crackling chemistry and connection. (Warning sign!) For a couple months, we had a great time dating, going to ...
by llorona
Wed May 01, 2019 9:02 pm
Forum: Skills & Tools Questions
Topic: BIFL kitched knife that won't break a budget?
Replies: 26
Views: 3494

Re: BIFL kitched knife that won't break a budget?

About 15 years ago, I bought a seven-piece set of Wusthof classic knives. I only use three -- chef's knife, paring knife, and utility knife. These are sturdy knives that come with a lifetime guarantee. I've actually tested this; a piece of a knife handle broke, and the company replaced it without qu...
by llorona
Wed May 01, 2019 2:33 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

I wouldn't be at all surprised if you find yourself once again responding to approach by one of these partners. It's very easy to become overwhelmed by practice of polyamory, but it also has a certain draw. No. Exes are exes for a reason. Once men cross a line with me, there is no redemption. Plus,...
by llorona
Mon Apr 29, 2019 5:16 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@7WB5: Well, no. If humans were 100% transparent all the time, we would have killed each other off a long time ago. :D Guess I'm just feeling a little protective and upset on your behalf - not that you need it, because apparently you kicked ass in the renegotiation. I'm also possibly projecting a a ...
by llorona
Sun Apr 28, 2019 10:54 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@7WB5: Still trying to wrap my head around the dynamic. But I wouldn't be inclined to think kindly of someone who was planning on replacing me, or splashed my headless photo around the internet. At a minimum, seems like communication and transparency are missing.
by llorona
Tue Apr 23, 2019 2:24 am
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@WB5: Wait. What???

Get the tattoo.
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:45 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Ella's Journal
Replies: 64
Views: 9754

Re: Ella's Journal

You are intelligent. No doubt. It comes across in your writing. No answers for you, just want to offer solidarity in dealing with mental health issues and the losses that ensue, both from the condition itself and medication. I've been on antidepressants for 20 years for major depression; while the m...
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:37 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

Since I intend to start actively dating again at some juncture in the near future, I am also wondering about how to handle dating apps as polyamorous female. If I come right out with it on profile, I am pretty certain I will be bombarded with even more unwanted attention than usual, so I didn't do ...
by llorona
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:20 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

As far as the kink community goes, what's the best way to get involved? I'm currently interested in more vanilla things, but they do seem like natural allies and I don't have much experience exploring the options they may have to offer. You might want to check out an app called Feeld. That's where ...
by llorona
Fri Mar 29, 2019 6:05 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

@WannaBe: Good thing you and I are too old for babies! (Sorry if that's a presumption on my part.) After extensive discussion, here are agreements that DH and I have reached: 1. DH moves much slower than me, like glacially so. Thus far he's only had flirtations. But yes, he can bring his paramours o...
by llorona
Fri Mar 29, 2019 5:38 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Gilberto de Piento's Journal
Replies: 374
Views: 83968

Re: Gilberto de Piento's Journal

This might not be a popular sentiment around here, but I think it's positive that you're loosening your belt a little. There's a psychological cost/toll that comes with being too frugal. Where that line falls is different for everyone -- for me, it was trying to sew my own underwear out of lace and ...
by llorona
Thu Mar 28, 2019 5:03 pm
Forum: Lifestyle Questions
Topic: Polyamory Support Group
Replies: 192
Views: 26995

Re: Polyamory Support Group

The issue I'm having are 1) I don't go to a lot of places where there are single available women and I'm not used to flirting with them when I do. I hear this a lot from guys who are poly. While it might be difficult meeting women out in the wild, are there polyamory meetups or Facebook groups in y...
by llorona
Sun Mar 24, 2019 3:22 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Llorona's Log, Take II
Replies: 6
Views: 1773

Re: Llorona's Log, Take II

FINANCES Net worth, including home equity, reached $1M in Q3 2018...then promptly took a plunge due to stock market fluctuations. Still tracking expenses but haven't calculated net worth since then. Spending is still pretty bare bones, but I've been splurging a bit on hosting dinner parties with fr...
by llorona
Sun Mar 24, 2019 2:22 am
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: cmonkey's journal
Replies: 889
Views: 164733

Re: cmonkey's journal

Bmonkey is adorable. Congratulations!!
by llorona
Sun Mar 24, 2019 2:20 am
Forum: Health Questions
Topic: Sleeping problems
Replies: 21
Views: 1684

Re: Sleeping problems

Ideas:
Kava kava
Yoga nidra
Heavy/weighted blanket
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Sunlight/sun lamp
by llorona
Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:57 pm
Forum: Friends & Family Questions
Topic: Christmas Shopping Sucks
Replies: 22
Views: 2980

Re: Christmas Shopping Sucks

This year I came up with the oh-so-brilliant idea to practice frugality by cooking, baking, or canning everyone's Christmas gifts. Spent the past several weekends in the kitchen making jam, knishes, hand pies, soup, etc. Uggh, so tired. Next year, everyone's getting gift cards, alcohol, or nothing a...
by llorona
Thu Nov 15, 2018 2:28 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: Smelly Swiss Dilettante
Replies: 205
Views: 38334

Re: Smelly Swiss Dilettante

I, too, am interested in the toilet.
by llorona
Fri Sep 28, 2018 4:01 pm
Forum: ERE Journals
Topic: black_son_of_gray's Journal
Replies: 96
Views: 14081

Re: black_son_of_gray's Journal

Hey there. Welcome to California! You're right about visiting attractions off-season. Weather here is pretty mild year-round so there's no particularly bad time to visit. Not sure what happened with your Golden Gate Bridge crossing, but you need a license plate account or FasTrak transponder to pay ...