Like a puppy? ; )it'sagreatday said: Really, a man who is teachable and eager to please is more than sufficient when sex becomes a factor in a relationship.
Please believe that I am not trying to be snarky here when I suggest that if this is really your core desire then you are likely a sexual dominant. The power dynamic in sex-absent-of-love (if such a thing existed) runs up and down the "masculine" hierarchy. Therefore, a dominant is somebody who is adult or mature in his/her masculine energy. This doesn't necessarily mean that a person has a lot of sexual energy or a high drive. I think it has something to do with relative levels of testosterone, estrogen, oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin and ? and/or sensitivity to these chemicals. I have a lot of juvenile masculine energy (high dopamine, high testosterone sensitivity) and a preference for high oxytocin levels. So, I am a very high drive cuddly sexual submissive which makes me sort of like a popular mixer on the sexual market. A femme domme such as yourself is much more rare and valuable on the open market. My first husband was a low drive, not-cuddly, very edgy switch so we were quite mismatched over the long-run. My current SO is a very high drive, cuddly dominant so we match much better. If I said something to him (I have done this on occasion) like "Wouldn't you like it if I played hard-to-get sometimes in order to increase arousal levels?" his response would be something like "Shut up and get naked." Of course, this does not speak to the strategy of withholding sex in order to increase time in proximity with male partner in order to cause rise in his level of chemical that causes him to think you are somebody he should protect. (I always forget the name of this chemical but it is much higher in men than women and it takes about 3 months of proximity to attain highest level.) So, keeping a man in pursuit/courtship mode for several months will maximize this but another successful strategy is to just keep showing up.