I agree: doing good for me is not altruism. I know that I feel good when doing good. And I hope on a rising tide that will also help me.
The flat was empty, so I could give away the time in it to the two without being much poorer. They probably used light and hot water for tea but I also got a package of tea that I like back, so not much cost attached.
And indeed, if I give things away for free it´s usually things that I don´t want anyway and which don´t have a great resale value except for the person who want´s it. (Example: I had a second tarot-card set and one person really wanted one - less clutter for me - ok gift for the other person)
And it´s also true that the appreciation of the other part will diminish the longer that experience lies in the background. So if I wanted a favour from one or both I´d have to state it very soon afterwards.
Still I just wonder if the rising tide could somehow (how exactly?!) be jumpstarted if the current society is not one that is based on gifts like tribal societies or Japan.
Probably that´s also a definite maybe ;-) And also interesting: WHY do I want a rising tide? To feel good all the time? Hm - have to think about it - thanks for all your input!
@simplex: got "Influence" will read soon