GandK it's my opinion that ERE is an INTx idea, written by an INTj for INTxs. Take away any of those first three letters, and it's going to be a challenge. (J is useful too, but not nearly as important as I, N, and T.) Other personality types can pursue ERE if they want, but it's going to be hard for them.
One thing a lot of ERE pursuers seem to forget or ignore is that jacob made no sacrifices in his pursuit of ERE. He wasn't giving up things he wanted now for some goal in the future. He just didn't want those things.
As an INTj I *like* being contrarian, weird, indepedent, and different. I didn't choose to be that way to accomplish some goals like ERE. I chose goals like ERE because they fit well with the way I naturally am.
I don't think you should seek to change this aspect of yourself. I think you should embrace it!
My girlfriend is as frugal as many of the people on this forum, but she has goals that are more important to her than autonomy and freedom. She chose a career as a teacher where she makes almost no money, but she has an immense, direct, positive impact on the people around her. She swells with joy when the students tell her how much her effort means to them. And she doesn't bat an eye at the $6/hr paycheck. This job makes ERE impossible for her; but as a Feeler, it's where she belongs.
In summary, I think you should take the parts of ERE that work best for you, and discard the rest. Don't force an NT plan on an NF personality. I do hope you stick around though, GandK, your posts are some of my favorite on the forum.