@sodatrain: I am on FIREdating. The next closest woman is almost 300 miles away though. I would be willing to travel for the right person, but the people on there don't look like the people for me. I'll for sure let y'all know if I meet anyone from the site though!
I'm also still very fresh out of this break up and not looking for serious relationships right now.
@ertyu:
I get what you are saying and I mostly agree with it. I welcome any perspective so please don't be discouraged from continuing a discussion in this direction. However, your answer is in almost total opposition to the light-hearted romp through possibility I had imagined. The upside of this is I can extract some interesting answers to my question.
Things one could get from a romantic relationship:
1) Finally finding...????
2) Someone to help you hide from yourself
3) Counterpoint:
boygenius wrote:
And it feels good to be known so well
I can't hide from you like I hide from myself
I remember who I am when I'm with you
Your love is tough, your love is tried and true blue
4) Self-discovery
5) Uncovering mommy issues (roleplay/ kink gold!!!!)
6) Uncovering daddy issues (roleplay/ kink gold!!!!)
7) Uncovering childhood neglect (roleplay/ kink gold!!!!)
8) Uncovering and inferiority complex (get in the cage!!!!)
9) Impressing other dudes
10) Social status
11) Money
12) Gifts
13) Someone who makes you feel special
14) Someone to distract you from your insecurities
15) Free therapy
16) Grasping at your fading youth
17) Unpacking your problems by observing the problems someone brings out in you
I realize I should answer my own question. Here is my partial list:
1) Sex
2) Dates
3) Romance
4) Someone to get dressed up with and take places
5) Roommate
6) Confidant
7) Emotional intimacy
8) Emotional support
9) Logistical support
10) Someone to sleep next to
11) Makeouts
12) Dance partner
13) Conversation partner
14) Someone to do projects with
15) Attention
@Henry: I'm gonna answer all your questions, so always assuming the answer is what you said it was even though they conflict.
(1) What are thoughts on this relationship?
I'm for it.
(2) Is it in fact a polyamorous relationship?
I don't have enough information to answer this.
(3) If #2 is a no, would you date a polyamorous siamese twin;
Yes.
(3) If #2 is a yes, if her sister was also polyamorous would that be even better?
Yes.
(4) If #3 is a yes, is a pair of polyamorous ERE siamese twins the holy grail of polyamory?
Yes.
ETA:
@7:
I meant need in the therapy sense where a need and a want are pretty blurred and the line is not really that important. I'm also open to possibility, so though you could get a ride to a colonoscopy from a friend, the fact that you sometimes get it from a lover means it's on the list.
I am single again in the sense that I have 0 partners. My last girlfriend and I we were basically monogamous by most non-monogamy/ polyamory definitions, so I wasn't stockpiling much more than possible interest from other people.
I personally practice hierarchical non-monogamy and my preference is to have one main partner, which can end up being very monogamy-esque, though monogamy-esque is not my absolute preference. I would entertain different situations, but this seems to be the current preference of my heart, so I think part of me would always be looking for one person to focus on and other situations would be due to a lack of adequate suitors. This is of course subject to change at any time.
I think by most understandings of the word single I am still currently single. Somewhat in the spirit of the question I am asking, non-monogamy thinking makes this status almost impossible unless you are totally celibate and totally a-romantic since basically any date or flirtation satisfies some romantic need.