Re: Mitigating the risk of losing 50% in divorce
Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2022 5:37 pm
@Slevin:
I think that polyamory, at least as I practice it, is actually meta-modern, because the power structures are fully recognized and repurposed. Also, because my first marriage might be described as naive post-modern, I am well aware of the problems inherent in the post-patriarchal , such as lesbian-bed-death-of-the-heterosexual-marriage or rational-robotic-romance-death of the super-modern marriage*.
@jacob:
That is true, but more critically, it also requires the ability to flow meaning through multiple narratives with no prior guidance for how that is done.
@Ego:
Your observations are not invalid. I guess the open question is what is driving the trend and where is it headed? I sometimes think it would just be easier to go back to being monogamous, but it’s kind of like that train has already left the station, because even if I were to be de facto celibate or monogamous, my perspective is now pretty solidly polyamorous, because I can’t unsee that it is possible.
*Which is why I think if you are going to be otherwise traditionally married, you should have joint finances.
I think that polyamory, at least as I practice it, is actually meta-modern, because the power structures are fully recognized and repurposed. Also, because my first marriage might be described as naive post-modern, I am well aware of the problems inherent in the post-patriarchal , such as lesbian-bed-death-of-the-heterosexual-marriage or rational-robotic-romance-death of the super-modern marriage*.
@jacob:
That is true, but more critically, it also requires the ability to flow meaning through multiple narratives with no prior guidance for how that is done.
@Ego:
Your observations are not invalid. I guess the open question is what is driving the trend and where is it headed? I sometimes think it would just be easier to go back to being monogamous, but it’s kind of like that train has already left the station, because even if I were to be de facto celibate or monogamous, my perspective is now pretty solidly polyamorous, because I can’t unsee that it is possible.
*Which is why I think if you are going to be otherwise traditionally married, you should have joint finances.