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Wild
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Post by Wild »

OK, I'll be the first to bite. Where are the single ERE ladies?


m741
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Post by m741 »

All the single ladies?


dragoncar
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Post by dragoncar »

It you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.


DutchGirl
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Post by DutchGirl »

... A frugal ring, of course.
Sorry, taken. Love my guy. Plus I'm probably too far away. But good luck.


AnotherAustinite
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Post by AnotherAustinite »

I would like to know, too.


JohnnyH
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Post by JohnnyH »

From the population figures I've seen: single ladies migrate to pop. centers for college/employment... And up to half move back to their upbringing to raise children.
Thus concludes my narrative, on 'where the single ladies at.'


Monsternaka
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Post by Monsternaka »

I'm a single lady. I live in Austin, TX, but I'm not sure where I'll live when I'm retired.


FreeUrChains
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Post by FreeUrChains »

It's best to start an ERE club at your local college community if you want to date ERE women/men ;)


SEinSF
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Post by SEinSF »

I am single, living in San Francisco.


FrugalZen
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Post by FrugalZen »

I am gay...and no I will NOT put on heels.


mikenotspam
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Post by mikenotspam »

Hmm, how old are you, FrugalZen? :-)


FrugalZen
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Post by FrugalZen »

54 mikenotspam... too bad you live in RI.


mikenotspam
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Post by mikenotspam »

Ah, OK. I am also about half your age! When ERE has world domination in 50 years and gay ERE dating websites abound, historians will look back at this thread as the momentous precursor to their dating paradigm. We're trendsetters for relationships. But just single. Hmm...


FrugalZen
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Post by FrugalZen »

OH! Great!!!....just what I always wanted to be...
A Footnote In History....LOL!!
And my age shouldn't mean anything...after all how many straight men in mid-life trade in a "40" for Two "20's"...}:>P


tac
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Post by tac »

Taken, thank goodness :) Dating is a madhouse. Question for you guys though: Where/how are you seeking out your ERE-minded mate? One thing I have noticed with many of my male friends is that they seem to be very strongly motivated by physical appearance. Even guys who claim to appreciate non-physical traits like brains, thrift, humor, etc. seem to consistently date or try to date women who are physically almost interchangeable (i.e., one guy goes only for tall brunettes, another seems to be blind to women who aren't Asian, and so on). If I try to fix a guy friend up with someone, they immediately ask about the woman's physical appearance. I haven't noticed this quite so much in women, although I'm sure there are other things women do when seeking out a partner that are similarly shallow. I'm not advocating going out and dating women that you find to be physically repulsive, but you might want to consider whether or not you are (consciously or unconsciously) limiting your pool of potential mates by ignoring anyone who isn't your physical "type". Seriously ERE minded folk are few and far between, so if that is an important trait to you, you may have to "settle" on some other more superficial qualities.


LiquidSapphire
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Post by LiquidSapphire »

I'm taken also at the moment...
But I read some of the other threads about how is one supposed to find someone, where the dating ritual seems to require all of this up front showing of cash etc...
My first date with my boyfriend, he paid for lunch out. I think it was $25.
The second time we just went downtown and walked around all night, for hours, talking. We did eventually get hungry and stop and eat somewhere. I paid that time. (I'm not one of those people who think the man has to pay for everything, that's not very fair.)
By then, I liked him, he liked me, we had hit it off, and he didn't have to spend money to impress me, that's not what I look for.
I just have this question: Why do you want to be with someone that just expects you to flash the cash all the time? I think it's actually quite a good screen out... if after a few dates they are still expecting that kind of behavior, and ERE is one of your important life goals, you are probably not compatible.
I actually partially got divorced over this... my husband repeatedly called me cheap and refused to let me "control" his money... wow did I dodge a bullet!!!!!!!


riparian
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Post by riparian »

^ Ditto. My best dates have been hiking, canoeing, and hitch hiking trips that were free or close to it.


Spartan_Warrior
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Post by Spartan_Warrior »

Dating truly does suck. Throw ERE into the mix and it gets really ugly.
Anyone in the Baltimore MD area looking for a roommate with benefits--er, boyfriend?


Posthumane
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Post by Posthumane »

While I'm neither single, nor a lady, I can say that when I was dating I found many frugal but fun date ideas. At the time the frugality of them was actually a secondary or tertiary concern, and the primary reason for them was because I didn't like the traditional dating activities (dinner and a movie, going to a bar, etc.) and wanted to find something that I enjoy.
What I found somewhat successful was this:

-Get on a site like Plenty of Fish and write up an honest/accurate profile, describing your interests, life goals, etc. Don't be too serious and throw in lots of your own brand of humour, but don't lie to make yourself look "better" as this will make things more difficult. You are trying to find someone who appreciates your qualities so there is no point in trying to hide them (though do try to pick the better ones to show off first, and start to introduce your annoying quirks a little later in the process).

-Look for ladies with similar interests and outlook on life. If your goal is to travel the world, don't message people who say they want to settle down and raise a 4 child family. If your main interests are hiking and mountain biking, don't message people who say they enjoy going to the club with their friends. Make sure you pay attention to everything in their profile and not just their written description - lots of people say they like hiking/camping for some reason when all of their profile pictures show an unfit person wearing lots of make up getting drunk at the club (as an example).

-Send messages to people you found interesting. Write your message well (with proper spelling and grammar, not with msn/text speak), introducing yourself and talking a little about what caught your eye about them. Suggest getting together to chat over one of the activities you both like to do, but choose something that is non-committal and easy for both of you to duck out of. For example, if you both enjoy hiking suggest going for a walk together, but maybe don't pick a 20 mile climb way out of the city for the first date - just a couple mile nature walk close to amenities will be good for an introduction, and if things go well you can extend it from there.

-Don't be upset when you don't hear back from people. Although two people may seem compatible on paper, not everyone clicks. I would say if you write your messages well, you can expect a reply from maybe one in five sent. Of those only a few will want to meet you after chatting for a bit, and of those only some will click.
Anyway, that's my take on it. I didn't mean to write a "dating guide" as that's probably not what your looking for (and I'm far from an expert at it anyway).
TL;DR: Look on free dating sites for people with similar goals/interests, propose cheap/interesting activities for dates that you both do anyway, don't get hung up if things don't work out.


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Post by palmera »

newly single* and ready to mingle heh heh heh
*amicable split


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