I returned from my holiday in Crete this weekend and now that I am back in the office, the beach is a fading memory
. However I have returned with renewed vigour and motivation to achieve my 75% savings rate so I can start to look towards my 'permanent holiday' and the day I can hand in my notice.
I had a great time abroad with my fiancée, aside from the great Greek food and copious amounts of red wine, we had some real and meaningful conversations about what we both want for the future. I feel like we are on the same page again for the first time since I started reading ERE and started to re-design my life and long term goals. For a while, I feared we had started to drift down different paths, I wanted to talk about this stuff sooner, but honestly I had not dared to go into too much detail for fear of scaring her off and losing her.
If anyone bothered to read into my earlier posts it’s possible that you may have had a sense that there has been conflict between our approaches to life. She, the ESFJ and busy workaholic/career type is my polar opposite. Being an INTJ with endless obsessions and desires to master everything that interest me, yet abandon things perceived as ‘important’ to her has caused concern. Yet we remain the best of friends. I'm know I’m so lucky to have met someone as patient and kind as her because she teaches me to relax and not beat myself up over things as INTJs tend to do. For lack of better words she simply rounds me off as a person and makes me feel whole.
I finished reading 'The Crash Course' by Chris Martenson while I was away. Initially it freaked me out and I've truly gone down the rabbits hole, there’s no turning back and feigning ignorance. I've got to change things, before I’m forced to change by the world around me. For the first time I have had enough time to sit down and talk to her about my plans to live frugally, but more importantly now, to become more resilient in face of what is to come. She was surprisingly receptive, albeit skeptical about the time scales. I think she still believes that ‘they’ will come to the rescue, nethertheless she will support me in my endeavours to live more locally, and become more self-reliant, and I’ll make sure we have the skills and knowledge to make it in years to come.
Being the caregiver type, she still wants me to focus more my career, which naturally doesn't interest me as much, however she does have a point. I could be earning more so we can reach our goals sooner. This is something that has been on my mind for a few months now since there is no way I can reduce my expenses without significant pain.
Analysis of June’s expenses will be in by the end of the weekend, so far it’s looking pretty good with a savings rate of about 65%. It’s slightly lower than my target of 75%, but some bulk purchases of goods, as well as the holiday tipped me over slightly. I need to stop focusing on the day by day, month by month figures and do some proper analysis.
It’s been a great month for learning and developing, I've read many books while I was away, and in July I hope to get my first weights bench so I can start doing some weight training. Hopefully this weekend I’ll be able to finish what I started in the garden and extended and dig another plot and start planting my first ever seeds. I’m thinking onions, potatoes, tomatoes, lettuces, cucumbers, courgettes and whatever else I can squeeze into my two 8"x4" plots. I’m not expecting great results because the clay soil isn't great, but it’s a start. Maybe I'll buy some compost, I kind of wanted to minimise my expenses on the project, but if I can get a few weeks food out of it, I'm sure it will pay for itself. Savings on bags of lettuce alone will make it worthwhile!