Surely once you are dead you have no consciousness and therefore cannot appreciate what is going on anyway?IlliniDave wrote:radamfi, you seem to be proposing that humans extinct themselves to preserve the environment and/or so no one will be unhappy. What is the purpose of that? The environment then becomes meaningless to our species, and while no one would be unhappy any longer, no one would be happy either.
To the OP: I second Dragline. Do what you and your husband decide is the best thing for your family.
By having a child you agree to that child dying, possibly suffering an agonising death from cancer, possibly suffering from other illnesses along the way and possibly getting raped or assaulted, scarring that child for life. If my child suffered from any of that, I would feel incredibly guilty.
The "best thing for the family" may not be the best thing for the individual concerned. People promoting children here only seem to care about themselves and their own happiness. Having children is selfish. It is a "want", it is "consumption", just like buying a big car or a big house. The whole ethos of ERE is to minimise consumption and waste, yet people here who make the effort in those departments throw that all away by having children.
Someone gave an example on the long "having children thread" elsewhere on here of a single man who lives in a big house who obviously consumes a lot. But people rightly pointed out that once he's dead, that will be over. A frugal person who decides to have children may well be more wasteful in the long run once the damage and waste caused by all future descendants are taken into account.