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Douchebags - erm - Marlenes Journal

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  1. Marlene

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    Warning - this is looong!

    Well, this journal is called Douchebags Journal because I somehow don´t see early retirement happening for me. Every time I read things from Jacob, MMM or related I want to comment that this is all nice and good BUT running the numbers (as far as I can run them) tells me that I´d need to work something like 60 years. And I´d like to sit in the sun NOW.

    Sigh - I think experienced Forum Users will probably already see from these very few sentences that I´m actually complainypanting:

    My living space is waay to spacious for one person, I indulge in two seminars per year that are in total the equivalent of 1,5 month living expenses and I drive a car to work that is only about 8km away (one way). Throw in some splurges on jewelry, knick-knacks, books and a tendency to buy organic(like) food whenever possible and this not always within the monthly budget and it´s easy to see that this journal could also be called "complainypants journal". Also I´m not too enthusiastic about immersing myself super-deep into economy - and did I mention that at the moment I don´t like my job much and therefore am not putting in the effort I should and that I´m thirty-ish?(1)

    On the up side I don´t have debt except one to a friend that runs up to 75 Euros, I set aside a little more than 20% of my take-home pay every month since November last year and I have set aside around 10 month of living expenses. My jewelry, knick-knack and book splurges are mostly in a second-hand kind of way, sometimes I ride the bike to work. I like to do arts and crafts and preferably in a way that reuses or "pimps" material that I have or got for free and I like to learn more of this. I don´t watch TV - only occacional DVD´s with my SO and eating out is also only occacionally with said SO. I can cook from scratch - thanks Mam!! - and I can give a kind of bodywork that sometimes generates a very small amount of money and I might be able to increase that. And I sometimes pick up empty bottles on the roadside that are returnable(2)

    Despite all this I still have the idea that I could pull early retirement off - but using a sort of sideways approach. Like not looking at the number I think I need to retire and somehow-abacadabra reach it while incrementally increasing the amount I set aside. Probably I have a lot of you laughing at this but because I know where my problems lie I will be able to fix some of them in the future. Well, if my future holds a paying job or some equivalent at least.
    And if I really can pull this off - maybe someone around here can benefit from my journal.

    upcoming month:
    April is already going to be a challenge - there is one of my insurances due and I want to travel to visit friends of mine. Maybe I can creat some sort of circle so that I visit several friends whilst driving only one loop, depending on how much time I want to spend with everyone. Maybe also coordinate with a neighbour that is driving in that general direction and share costs - not sure how it will work out.
    I also planned a visit to an accupunturist and there are some birthday presents that want funding - I hope I can still set aside my 20%.

    Goals
    - biking way more to work - I find that I get a sort of cold when I bike more than two times per week to work. I think that´s a fitness issue so the plan is to increase incrementally. Starting: probably next week - as soos as the current cold is gone.
    - Set up professional Flyer for my Bodywork-gig
    - thinking about diminishing the seminars by one and using half of that money for a different mode of teaching (that also is nearer to where I live)
    - create a fun-allowance so that I can use that for jewelry books and knick-knack and am bound to say: sorry - no allowance left, when tempations come around
    - repaying the debt hopefully this month: due end of month to see if I can keep that 20% in my pocket.
    - either moving together with SO or finding a cheaper but still nice place to live - due: around June
    - decrease working by 20% - due sometime around next year, when it´s clear that I really can live on 20% less than now
    - learn more about edible plants around me (e.g. herb gerard/ground elder) and where I can savely pluck them and use them as food (for myself only)
    - Increase network by giving stuff that I only semi still want to have to people that have a glitter in the eye when they see it
    - This or something better if that´s best for me and best for all living things (and now I have all the analytical kind of people frothing I think, but this is important to me and I´m being completely selfish with this journal, acutally)

    Epilogue to this post:
    I think writing this was already clarifying for me - so I´m getting a yield out of this, never mind if any one of you does ;-) Also I think formulating my goals will help them along, so that´s another bonus. If any of you have questions, feel free to ask. It could be that future posts are similar long - you are warned.

    (1)maybe this whole thing is just a sort of midlife-crisis?
    Still putting aside money as conondrum is probably a good one - if that should pass after some time I´m still financially ahead.

    (2)Other plusses and minusses regarding early retirement will probably show up in later posts.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  2. Felix

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    You may like "Work less, play more"
    http://www.amazon.com/Work-Less-Play-Steven-Caltin/dp/0965418804

    Basically, you should consider semi-retirement, then. The basics you can't argue against: If you lower your expenses you have more free time per time worked. If you really want to fully retire early, you may want to consider moving to a place like Thailand. They have an average income of around 7000 THB, which translates to around 300$ a month, the interest on 80.000 - 100.000$. Other low-income countries also apply here. That should be fully achievable in a few years of work.

    Then you just lie in the sun. :-)

    Basically, if you want to lower your expenses significantly, you will need to sell your car and move to a smaller appartment. But I guess that's one of the reasons you're complaining. ;-)

    Welcome to the forum. :-)

    Posted 1 year ago #
  3. secretwealth

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    It seems like you already know what you need to cut down, so I won't say much about that.

    But I do want to say that ERE just isn't impossible for you if make the cuts that you know you need to make but still haven't chosen to make. Take the plunge. Join us. Welcome to the dark side.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  4. before45

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    Welcome!

    Edible plants: If purslane grows in your area, it's very nutritious, actually pretty tasty, and grows like a weed in all sorts of soils, yards, etc. And supposedly it was Gandhi's favorite vegetable, which makes me happy for some reason. Common daylily flowers are good too and everywhere and you can pick them in the evening as they're fading so you get the bloom and the food.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  5. Marlene

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    Ah, probably I should add that I already read the Tightwad Gazette, YMOYL and the ERE-book - although I´m currently finding ways to polish my math to understand the formulas in the latter part of the book. And it´s quite shameful to know what I know and still only set aside 20% - well, a bit progress is probably better than none. (Although if I´m thinking of the S-curve that Jacob described in his blog I´m beginning to doubt).

    @Felix. Thanks for the book recommendation! I think my current answer should be: ah, I have minus 7,5 month fun allowance left so that´s probably something for my birthday wishlist ;-)

    Thailand is a very nice country, at the same time I like where I am - so really I should join the dark side. My car is probably not that expensive, because all maintenance/repair is done by my father and it´s a car that runs on LPG-gas which is half in price of what regular gasoline is, still if I multiply the annual cost by 35 it´s still more that I have set aside currently.

    @secretwealth: Thanks for the honest words, the accomodation-plunge will start to happen in June, then it should be clear where SO is going to have his living-center and then we either move together or I´ll move to something smaller or move in with other people. (And Dang - I thought I was with the green pointy ears fraction around here! What a letdown :D)

    @before45: Purslane [Portulaca oleracea] is a non-indigenous plant around here - I´ve never seen it, but probably people will be happy if I eat it for them ;-) I think from the things it can offer (Vitam C, Kalium etc. it´s quite similar to ground elder) Never knew that daylily was edible, thank you!
    My working-theorie is, that everything that grows like the blazes (aka "weed") is acutally something that was harvested a lot and it adapted by growing as fast as possible - stinging nettles come to mind but I have to dig into this more.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  6. Marlene

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    Ah yes, and yesterday my bike decided to go on flat-tyre holiday. Hope to be able to repair it this weekend.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  7. Marlene

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    April/May update:

    Last month saw me 4 times on my bike to work. Yay! I find now that when I go to work by car because it saved me some time I start to berate myself for sloppy timehandling, I find this a good start of kicking the car-habit ;-)

    I managed to save my ca. 20% of my salary - the insurance thing was not nearly as expensive as I had in mind. Visiting friends meant saying "later" to one of my friends and meeting the others in a sort of loop that meant I took one day off from work. A very enjoyable time and not too expensive.

    For May I´ve gotten a bonus that´s around 30% of my monthly salary and I´ve gotten some payback because I was frugal with my energy consumption. That means that the money I´ve set aside for the upcoming Feldenkrais-course stays stashed away and I can pay it directly and STILL can set aside the usual 20% - double-yay.

    I even had some money left at the end of the month, so I will increase my saving-rate by ca. 2% - I´m a bit conservative here because I sometimes have month where I´m travelling more to meet friends or where I´m eating out with other friends that I only see 4x a year or something the like, that leaves me scraping by for the rest of the month or getting a bit out of savings again. By that little increase I hope to be able to meet all my expenses without drawing from my savings.

    My debt will be paid in full by this week and the fun-budget was a good thing too - I just bought one book and because I have an eye on a book that is more expensive than my monthly budget, I´ll just wait until the end of this month, and it feels great to do so.

    Herbs: Had a soup with gill-over-the-ground (Glechoma hederacea - which is poisonous for animals, just so you know!), nettles, daisies, potatoes, cocosflakes, peas and ground elder (Aegopodium podagraria), bit of oil and it was delicious. Made some pancakes with almost the same mixture (added white archangel/Lamium album) and it was delicious again. Today I´ll eat dandelion leaves on my midday bread, just for my digestion. (Again, don´t try any of this at home when you don´t know what you are doing).

    On the other side: my rent has gone up 30 Euros, I need to scale down my belongings, so moving will become easier - I´ve set myself 6 month to scale down on my things. By that time the situation of my SO will be clearer and I can move in a snap.

    Feldenkrais: I´m getting more exercise as three people are interested - one is paying in dinners, the other two are an investment into social capital because I´m REALLY interested in giving Feldenkrais to someone that is deep into sports - to find out if Feldenkrais will add to the performance immideately or in the long run - or not at all. I think it will be something that improves performance, but I gave only one lesson so far, so too early to tell.

    To do:
    - Resetting my monthly saving rate
    - Getting a better picture on my expenses / income/ savings by entering the expenses in an excel-sheet ( so that I can list percentages of costs or costs here for eye-candy/better picture all round)
    - keep on cycling
    - Find a date with the grafic-designer so she can set up my flyer
    - Get good pictures while doing Feldenkrais with another person
    - Take pictures for things listed on the internet for sale
    - Listing surplus bagpack on Kalaydo
    - Fixing trolley-like Sportsbag
    - Listing said bag on Kalaydo

    So that´s a lot of things to do - the first three are most important. Hopefully I´ll stick to my guns and jsut do it. Any questions/suggestions?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  8. Marlene

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    Just as biking is more of a priority the Universe seems to contrive to force me to understand my bike better: now I have a flat tyre because the french valve broke. I could just replace the valve, but seeing that probably my pump caused the valve to deform I think I´m better of replacing the inner tubes so that I´m going to get standard valves.

    And my investment in social capital has already paid off. I´ve gotten my light hiking shoes polished by the sportsperson and I could lend a Bokken and Jo (Han-bo?) from them. I´m going on an Aikido workshop and since I´m not currently training in this I don´t plan to spend money on those two wooden sticks. Saved: 20€

    Posted 1 year ago #
  9. Marlene

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    Oh yes, and I reset my savings rate so now I´m setting aside approx. 22% automatically. One goal reached.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  10. palmera

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    It's great that you put dates/deadlines on your goals. I think you can ERE you're on the right track. Keep us posted, we're here to support each other!

    Also, I love the concept of "inviting in social capital." I'm going to blog about it.

    Keep us posted about your progress!

    Posted 1 year ago #
  11. Marlene

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    Hi Palmera!
    Thanks for the support!
    I think I got the soc. capital Idea from Jacob in one of his blogs - or the book, I don´t remember.

    The person that paid in dinners had the feeling that she was not contributing enough and gave my mats to the cleaner - so I´m even ahaed time- and moneywise!

    Posted 1 year ago #
  12. Marlene

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    Mai/June update:

    Biking: still gotta repair my bike - finally gotten the front-bike off so I can show the salesperson what kind of inner tube I need

    May saving: stayed in the bank, because I´ve gotten through the month fine and today the monthly saving rate lies around 23% of my take-home-pay. If that stays in the account I´ve got another month of living costs set aside.

    Downscaling stuff: gave away one comic and a card-deck - managed to aquire 10 scraps of dark green leather - downscaling goes great, you see.

    Feldenkrais: I´ll be giving a try-out lesson of Feldenkrais in a nearby town this sunday. I´m really looking forward to this - there will be people attending that are going to promote future workshops - so I´m quite excited. Oh and the sportsperson really could learn something from Feldenkrais - I´m quite happy about that.

    Food: continued eating nettles, white archangel etc. most delicious in pancakes with different flour and mustard.

    Cheaper quarters: June was too ambitious - SO first has to finish his things and then we can discuss where we´re going to be. I´d like it to be clear soon, but I think it will probably not before end of this year.

    Other goals:
    complete fail - I even *bought* a scarf and a necklace - secondhand but still over budget!

    In the meantime I talked to persons from a bank and I´m going to talk to two not-to-a-bank-attached money-advisors to get more information about what I can do "best" with the money I´m setting aside.

    June is going to be a more tough month: I´m in for one of the Feldenkrais-courses and still have to book my lodgings - traveling and living there.

    June goals:
    - look at extant pictures to see if some of them are nice positioned and just need re-shooting in better surrounding
    - fix my bike and start biking again
    - get a person to share the ride to the workshop I´m taking
    - evaluate the workshop to determine if I´m going the second time this year or not.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  13. bigato

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    I work in a bank and I tell you, don't even ask people there about what to do with your money.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  14. Marlene

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    Thanks for the warning - it´s kind of strange sitting there with RE on my mind and hearing something about "locking low interest rates for building houses into place" and then not being able to distill several books and blogs into something that is understandable for them. They probably think I´m some kind of weird hippie, with no grasp on finances. Sorry to say that it´s currently kind of true ;-)

    Posted 11 months ago #
  15. Marlene

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    Whilst indexing the blog in the wiki I somehow got sidetracked to the texts that Jacob wrote for monevator and what stuck in my brain (this time around) was mostly this:

    Most people sweat the small stuff (couponing / saving water) whilst not paiyng attention to the big stuff (second car/ second, third bedroom) and this:

    "Always remember: Anything that you own but don’t use is costing you money in some way, whether that is storage or heating costs or lost returns if you had invested the money instead."

    So the green leather I´ve gotte for free is not free at all - I should have known that.

    Keeping this in mind will probably help with sorting through my stuff - will report if it is indeed so.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  16. Marlene

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    Bike fixed - yeah! First time I completely changed innter tube and outer shell on the back tire by myself. Today was my first biking day.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  17. aussierogue

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    Im enjoying this thread. No real advice except to say - keep it up!

    Posted 11 months ago #
  18. Marlene

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    Hi aussierogue!
    Thanks for the encouragement - much appreciated! (Will keep it up.)

    Posted 11 months ago #
  19. Marlene

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    Boldly posted in another thread that I solve my bike-problems as they come -- my bike obviously likes me to learn faster: the gear-shifter went out of order, the saddle suddenly moved and I still have to change the front tubes. Still I managed to go two times to work by bike - 3 € in Gas saved.

    Gotten rid of some papers, which congests my rooms - I guess I´m a messy after all but on the track to get more sorted and minimalist.

    Currently I´m kind of anxious, because I *think* I have got enough money to travel to the upcoming course and live there but I´m in two minds about a sort of buffer: should I extract some money from the set-aside-account or should I just go and if the money runs out finde another solution? The second appears quite scary for me - so maybe that´s the way I should go.
    So and because I´ve written that here I´ve done a more accurate estimation and figure it will have to bite into things set aside, if I find no travellers that share the costs.

    Now find a way to bring my food costs down there without me having access to cooking set ups. Hm, I could bring a gas-cooker and cook in the open? Mainly pasta and some of the herbs I know now? I guess I´m verging on the "cheap" here.

    On another note - talked to one non-bank-advisour - who would like me to buy more insurance. Some of them seem to make sense, e.g. the higher risk coverage for the bodywork or the inflation adjusted pension-insurance should I get disabled.
    He also said that I should come visit him to talk about a portfolio (won´t do it over the phone). Since he is a friende of a friend I´ll do that and have a chance to ask all my complete beginners questions.
    Almost funny anecdote: I had sent him Jacobs $7000/year post and although he would like to have "Privatiee" (a person that achieved ERE) on his calling card he thinks of it as impossible to achieve with partner & kid.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  20. riparian

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    Thermos cooking. Think of it like a crockpot when you add scalding hot water. I've mostly only made oats and soup, but people make all kinds of things.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  21. tac

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    +1 on thermos cooking. You can buy or make dry vegetarian soup mixes (buying is a little $$, for me it is about half the price to make my own and dehydrate), they can get a bit boring but are nutritionally pretty good for near instant food.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  22. Marlene

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    @riparian & tac: You two saved my day - thank you! Now I can have various warm meals for really cheap and without a stove. Also great for canoeing, very nice!

    I imagine that cutting e.g. vegatables into very small pieces would make them cookable like this too. Great! And if I added too much water it´s a soup - I love soup!

    Posted 11 months ago #
  23. RecoveringConsumer

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    For breakfasts - dry cereal, muffins or bagels and instant coffee/tea bags are easy to pack - eggs can be soft-boiled in a thermos or poached.

    Dried fruit packs easily, makes a nice "desert"; likewise for dried peas and corn ( makes a good snack). Peanut butter and nuts can provide protein.

    In other words - 2 meals a day made of easy to pack food, one meal for social aspects and filling nutritional needs

    Posted 11 months ago #
  24. Marlene

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    @RecoveringConsumer: Hey thanks! And also thanks for the great reply in the sewing skill = good idea thread! I have a much clearer picture now.

    Posted 11 months ago #
  25. Marlene

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    June
    So back from an amazing course. Cooked with my thermos twice (peas don´t cook too well), ordered a large pizza & ate the rest the next day and ate out twice.

    So goalwise:
    - still have to look at the pictures
    - bike still needs fixing

    Done:
    - will go to (a) next workshop
    - gotten people to share the ride

    It´s interesting to note that usually this time of year I don´t have that much money set aside - and it´s kinda scary: I know this is the starting point of my pile of retirement-gold but I catch myself thinking things like this: an armour set for kendo is 300 € - I can afford that - or: Now I´ve almost got 3 courses set aside, I´m good in the moneys!

    And my thought-process should run something like: A wow - I have only such a little pile of money that it would yield only 30 € being invested in a safe thing.

    Intersting - I think this is another shift in thinking that I need to undertake. And until that get´s done I just have to remove that money from my direct grasp, I think.

    On that note: spoke to the other not-to-bank-related money-person, who jotted down my intention and what kind of money I can set aside and will run it by his colleagues for his offer. My next step would be to figure out what my questions are for the first person.

    And I´d like to practice way more of Feldenkrais - so I´d like to get more free time to do that. Have to run it by SO of course and if I do that, then my savings-rate will plummet. The step after that would of course be: cheaper flat, otherwise that pile of retirement will be in more problems than it is now!

    Another thing: somehow I still seem to incur debt with friends - the last three months it´s almost always something around 80€ - what is this I wonder? Me not being able to say no as soon as I see something beautiful? Me not being patient? What? Will set goal!

    So July goals:
    - fix bike
    - look at pictures for bodywork
    - talk to SO about reducing hours
    - find a way to get my spending tracking working (how hard can that be?!)
    - put everything except food, gas, water, supplies for bike-repair on an at least 72-hour wishlist to reduce the 80 € per month debt
    - find the frugal solution to get to the Aikido workshop
    - post first results of tracking spending end of july

    Posted 10 months ago #
  26. Marlene

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    So the saddle of my bike is stable again, still have to change front tyre and check what´s up with the gears.

    Today I made an excel-sheet to track my spending in lieu with a paper-version for day-to-day expenses. Will figure out how I want to present it here. As addmitted earlier I´m no good with maths, so it would actually be a neat learning experience for me if I posted them in percentages.

    Meanwhile...
    My head still goes: oh wow, I got almost two month living expenses set aside - what will I do with this money?

    Well, find a good way to invest, maybe?! Remember that money is kind of a magic matter.

    Posted 10 months ago #
  27. SideSteptheRatRace

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    "money is kind of a magic matter"

    Ha! I love it.

    Posted 10 months ago #
  28. Marlene

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    Well, so there is this savings account where the percentage goes to that I´m setting aside - and it´s one that only gives out statements twice a year. Me being not quite disciplined with numbers I saw yesterdays statement with amazement: it had 4 month on living expenses on it - not two! Wohoo.

    Funnily enough with this number my head has come around too - it goes like: we need to hold this, how can this be accopmlished!

    @Sidetheptheratrace
    Hehe, I got that idea from a person who is ERE without ever having a great pile of money. She did it with working as a cleaner and writing a lot of books on magic and the like, which still sell. And that´s quite cool in my eyes.

    I might imagine my money as a kind of mana-pool which with I could conjour things I want - Magic the Gathering Game-like ;-) This would also furnish my head with an analogy that would work for me: do I want a new scarf or more magic power?

    Bikenews:
    The gear-shifter apparently only had one screw in front loose - and now it appears to work again. I say "appear", because I wonder how that screw came unscrewed in the first place? And I think I have to make aquaintance with the chainwheel (back spocket? - learning new words here) and associates at the back of my bike to figure that out. I wonder if the steel cord is too long as grease from that rubs off on the frame.

    Oh yes, and I learned yesterday, that there is a kind of gadget that protects french valves from being bent while inflating tyres - it would have cost 1€. I paid appr. 30€ for two inner- and outer tubes. Oh well, at least they are new and I hope they will hold out longer.

    Posted 10 months ago #
  29. Marlene

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    Just read the "Original Message" thread and was inspired by one comment that setting aside 30% meant no hardship.
    That had me playing with my calculator (again). 30% would mean an increase of setting aside money by 6% - doable? Maybe - but maybe I should go for this greater challenges, which would bring me more onto my bike or change how I spend my time. Hm.

    Bike
    whilst wiping down my bike after a tour through the rain I found that one associates of the rear sproket has a r+ on its screw. My SO assures me that somewhere in there is also a r- screw, which does something to how the cain is distributed along the blades. So between now and when I scraped together enough time and courage I´ll fiddle around with these to find out if the biggest blade of the back sprocket can be used again. By the way - I know Jacob has somewhere a link to a platform that shows everything bike related - I´ll probably should visit that beforehand.

    Accounting
    ...or what I think that entails: my tracking system is working so far and I´m happy for it. Still have to figure the percentage out - I´m tempted to just post the original numbers, but if anybody uses the link to ERE-Blog or forum I might be in for some embarassing encounters ;-)

    And the next step in my "Accounting" should be that I add a sort of table that shows me my expenditures and savings per month - the first question of this post would then answer itself. (I´m taking one obvious step after the next you see - rolling eyes smiling).

    Don´t know how to express the following properly - but I´ll try: I still think that my thought-world is not quite into the E of RE - and somehow I think, if I keep pushing into the right direction maybe that thougt-world will come around and be changed unwittingly.
    Like the principle: What you contemplate you imitate. I wonder nay hope that it´s possible to imitate towards proficiency. Hopefully I don´t end up as a cheapskate.

    Posted 10 months ago #
  30. Hoplite

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    @Marlene, I'm commenting here in response to your comment in another thread:

    I´m curious because I wonder if they can complete each other or stand in the way of each other. I wonder because I´ve in a situation where I have two things that I would really like to to (Feldenkrais and Art) and wonder if they are in the way of each other and would appreciate hearing from others.

    I know of a woman, through one of her students, who has lived the combination you mention, art and Feldenkrais. Her house is practically an art studio, with exercise classes conducted in the space. I don't believe that either activity provides a large income, but would supplement some type of semi-ERE.

    Rather than compete, the activities seem to complement each other very well; the art being somewhat solitary and the classes more social. As an outsider, I notice that Feldenkrais seems to attract some really nice people who become more friends than classmates, and the exercises are gentle enough that you won't have to abandon them as you get older. So, the combination may not solve the money problem (but you knew that), but it can work well enough to yield a good life :)

    Posted 10 months ago #
  31. Marlene

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    @Hoplite: Ah, thank you very much for this reply! That´s great to hear. I hadn´t thought about them being complementary to each other.

    Yes, Feldenkrais can be done to a high age - my current teacher, Mia Segal, is in her 80ies and still get´s on the floor to move people. Altough it can be hard work too - even if that seems to be a contradiction.

    Yielding a good life: that´s what (we all?) I´m after. And I´m very glad to hear that my two "vices" don´t need to be in conflict. Thanks again!

    Posted 10 months ago #
  32. Marlene

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    Juli/ August
    Well, first try of the numbers for JUNE, all Euros:

    Costs
    rent - 430 + 24 electricity = 454
    life-insurance - 70,3
    donation - 10
    bank-account fees - 26
    website - 12
    sport appr. - 35
    Telefone - 43,55
    Transport - 162,44
    groceries 84,18
    books - 15
    lessons Feldenkrais - 60
    travel hotel - 168
    Stamps - 8
    Gifts - 22,57
    Cleaning - 10

    Money saved
    account - 35
    Invest fond - 30
    saving- account - 321
    another account - 40

    Money earned
    Wage - 1545
    playing taxi - 110
    Dividend - 48
    selling things - 10,25

    Money earned: 1713,26
    Money spent: 1658,14 (inkluding savings)

    Savings that month - 416

    So housing is too expensive - but that´s what I knew already - future posts will show, that my Feldenkrais-courses are too expensive. But if you find other things to comment on please do, looking forward to it.

    So in july I´ve gotten a tax refund, that got almost exclusively added to the savings account, which reads 5k at the moment. 2,5k are for next years courses and car-insurance, but still a nice amount for my doing at this time of year.

    Ayurveda Products:
    Gotten the paperwork started and already ordered and sold a few products to a friend (whom I´ve gotten the idea from) now writing a bill and getting the money.

    Some products (like 8 pieces) are in store if he and another person will order seconds of the same. Next step will be to find out other natural professionals to sell these products to.

    Feldenkrais:
    Gotten a new client - still a friend of a friend, but one who knows a lot of people and is enthusiast after the first lesson.

    For time-saving I will re-use an old flyer, so she can spread that. Probably on a "I´ll visit and teach at peoples homes"-base. Looking forward to the experience.

    Afterthought: well, actually - as long as I don´t get ads in a newspaper the new clients will always be friends of friends. So this shouldn´t be my yardstick - only the difference between paying and non-paying clients should be the difference, of course. Some things really are too obvious...

    Bike
    Last week I biked two times to work and now have 328 km biked to work this year, with 16 km to a round trip.

    Nothing much else happened financewise - I added another 4 Euros to my fixed saving. Still unsure if I rather should take the day per week off or sock the 20% away. It probably should be the latter, so that I´ll have a broader base to stand on, but I´d really like the time. Uncluttered two things by getting a donation for them, will probably sell two bigger things next week.

    Hm, I´ll see how that Ayurveda-thing will turn out and how far I can get with the time I´m having now with Feldenkrais - if these two could sustain the 20% loss, then I´m good. I like the selling part and I´m a fan of giving Feldenkrais-lessons. So very probably semi-re is the thing for me. Just have to figure out when to ask for the day per week off.

    Afterthought II: Asking for the day off - easiest yardstick: when the Ayurveda and Feldenkrais on average compensate for the 20% loss in wage, I think. Average of half a year, maybe?

    Annoying:
    Some goals still have seen no improvement: pictures and further bike work. Will start with the bike - buying the front outer tube, as soon as the person pays his Ayurveda-bills. And I still have to get my flat more sorted.

    Supernice:
    Went to an Aikido-course last week, which was very great (awesome), a bit over half of the participants were black-belts and we did Zazen and Stock-fight drills on top of two usual Aikido-units per day. I like Zazen so much that I do it everyday now. The first time I did it at my SO place he was a bit puzzled because I entered into Zazen without telling him clearly what I was doing - it was a bit funny.

    Posted 9 months ago #
  33. Marlene

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    Can I say yay? Today I fixed my bike (the front tyre gave out last week) and next week it´s back to delicious bikeriding to work. If I alter the speed - read: go slower - I might even be able to break my "only 2 times per week" pattern without offending my body. And even unwinding while to going to/from work.

    Ayurveda
    I set up my bills in open office so that it calculats the endprice by itself.
    Last week I had to get some money back from my savings account because one big Ayurveda-bill was slow in being paid - so from next month onward there will be a buffer in the account for that kind of thing until I set up the dedicated bank account for the shop.

    I´m telling everybody I meet that now I´m selling Ayurveda Products. Apparently coffee is bad for you from an ayurvedic point of view - but there is an ayurvedic alternative. How convenient, no?

    Also I will be byuing some of my (christmas) presents at the company - because some things I know already and find them delicious and know some of my friends are going to like them. And it´s also a bit of promoation even if it´s a long shot.

    Different practical things occur: if I want to be able to offer quite low prices I´d need to bulk-buy - so that might lead to orders being delayed. If this is treated by the customer as a kind of alternative medicine speed would be of essence - if it´s kind of a wellness-luxury, then it doesn´t have to be there that fast. But bulk-buying means lots of customers, which I have to generate first. So at first it will be order on demand (plus my christmas gifst) then we will see. That is probably also the reason why in my youth I always had to wait for my ordered book more than 4 weeks.

    Feldenkrais
    Well, yesterday I made a flyer for the enthusiastic client and now I have to add a pricelist. That list will include a per-session price and a several-times-package-price, which will be a bit lower. I cannot seem to get hold of the person that would make a professional flyer - so homemade it is for now. Another client is getting appointmenst - she is getting very low prices because she works for the company that gave me the time to do the courses.

    Ohterwise
    I sold some stuff through the internet and through work - nothing spectacular.

    My SO stated this week that he is probably going to go to another country at the start of next year, so now that things start to look up on the Feldenkrais-front I have to consider moving. I knew this all along, but somehow I still don´t change track easily. So I will start to inform myself what work-options will look like over there and what kind of legislation I have to take care of etc.

    Posted 9 months ago #
  34. Marlene

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    Exusitis-venting

    currently my exusitis runs like this:

    - if I take on a roommate, my relationship to SO will deteriorate, because we are not longer "alone" when he is there. I don´t want to jeopardize our relationship.

    - if I go by bike to everywhere, it takes too much time - time that I need to take care of my becoming more orderly and especially for fostering my Feldenkrais-work

    - if I go by bike to everywhere - I´m not fit enough for this and will be ill, which I don´t want to be

    - if I go by bike to everywhere - I need a faster bike - which is a nonono according to prices (and how not able I am to fix such a piece of machine)

    - if I want to reduce my work to 80% I will not be able to save much - I could get a roommate to compensate - see above

    - at work I´m not good at doing the work I´m supposed to do, it is really annoying (the work and the inability) - I wonder if one day extra off will help? See above

    - If I´m not better off with one day off, then what? I´m a working-looser. How am I allowed to complain when everybody else around here works way more than me (I work 40 hours).

    So - I´ll never be ERE, even though I know the principles.

    The good part - I don´t have debt, I´m setting money aside, I´m productive (Feldenkrais, Ayurveda-products selling, reuse/recycle old things to make something nice new), I buy second hand, SO is sometimes even more into frugality than I am.

    Somehow I will be getting my hand on an Alexander sword for this knot, so that it´ll work out fine for me and SO

    Posted 9 months ago #
  35. bigato

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    Bike everywhere and you'll be fit in a month or two!

    Posted 9 months ago #
  36. bigato

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    No need for a new bike, just tweak yours!

    Posted 9 months ago #
  37. Toska

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    First my biking background. 8 years semi serious biking (3000 km/yr) Biked two winters, 182 cm and 80 cm snow respectively.

    I don't know the road conditions or bike so here's some general help. If you're semi serious that is.

    Properly aired up tires help reduce rolling resistance and prevents tubes from moving. (movement rips off stems)

    If its a mountain bike, get the derailleur fixed and some smoother tires. This reduces energy spent and increases speed. (Save the good old tires.)

    To increase endurance use the weekends. Joyride around on the bike. Go Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. Or go Monday, Wednesday and twice, take breaks, bring water, Saturday. Have SO pick you up if you can't make it.

    There is no shame in driving to work if conditions don't allow safe biking. Be it cold, rain, snow, its just not worth being sick or injured.

    Only bike if the road and drivers allow it. I stay away from curvy narrow roads. Drunks, teens, cell users, heavy traffic and speeders are also to be considered.

    Posted 9 months ago #
  38. Marlene

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    Bigato, Toska - thanks for the reply! 182cm - wow I´ve got no excuses left! The highest over here would be something around 50 cm or so. And up until now I have around 394 km on my bike for this year.

    The bike is a 30 year old with a 5-gear (without the middle-bar and in stylish silver) that I´ve gotten for free and seeing that the country over here is quite flat and with bike friendly streets all that needs doing is me getting fitter. I´m serious - only whyning a lot. Have to stop that.

    Thanks again for the tipps also!

    Posted 9 months ago #
  39. riparian

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    - Would it help to frame the biking as self care? Maybe make it a routine to just bike to one place a day for starts. It's an investment in your physical and mental health forever.

    - If your partner's on board, I'm sure you could come up with adaptations to maintain and strengthen your relationship with a roomate. You could even look for a roomate who works opposite schedule of you two.

    - Try to develop a sense of humor about work. It'll develop character and you'll give less energy to it.

    Posted 8 months ago #
  40. Marlene

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    @Riparian: Excellent suggestion about work and humor - it feels like a NLP-approach (NLP = Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) I´ll have that in mind tomorrow.

    Biking as self care: very probably. I have a nice way to bike so I´ll increase biking to work as much as possible. Biking back is indeed very relaxing if I´m alone - almost like a biking vacation (zen on bike)
    And find out how ill indeed I´m going to be if I bike like 3-4 times. Maybe it´s just a headshow. Will report back.

    Roommate - well - SO said that in appr. 2 weeks (probably 4) it´ll be clearer where we´re heading. Once that is clear I might be able to point out that the living-situation over here is a transition thing anyway and thus some inconvenience can be tolerated - we´ll see. SO relishes his privacy (which probably a lot here can understand)

    Note to self:
    - read: http://www.amazon.com/Just-Case-Self-Sufficient-Unexpected-Happens/dp/1603420355/
    - Find out where I posted my Test-results on not being INTJ and plonk them here.

    Posted 8 months ago #

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